[-] utg@mander.xyz 10 points 11 months ago

The old outlook was just perfect, the new one is positively abhorrent. I swear if they force one more app to me I'm going to purposefully stop using it altogether

[-] utg@mander.xyz 6 points 1 year ago

I've noticed that the lack of content and poor arrangements is pushing me back to reddit

[-] utg@mander.xyz 19 points 1 year ago

My realization came from DDLC. I learned about what other people can feel after you've left

[-] utg@mander.xyz 5 points 1 year ago

It's a carbon tax on imported products aimed at incentivizing companies to move to cleaner processess

[-] utg@mander.xyz 3 points 1 year ago

A couple of things help me:

  1. Having bigger hands for a start
  2. Native gestures
  3. Extra gestures using specific apps

That last one is the best deal

[-] utg@mander.xyz 52 points 1 year ago

That starting the work is half the work. I wasted a lot of time procrastinating, it took me shamefully long to realize that if I could just start an activity for 5 minutes, taking it to completion is then relatively easy

[-] utg@mander.xyz 4 points 1 year ago

What's most frustrating about it is that even when I try to help others see that this is the real cause of friction between us - that poor communication or misunderstanding is the real cause of our arguments, many if not most would still fight me that I'm wrong and they're right and it's like nobody wants to reach a solution, they'd rather forever spin in the accusations

[-] utg@mander.xyz 11 points 1 year ago

I use edge and onedrive. I like my settings in a particular way. However, microsoft thinks it's okay to change the system settings every few days because in their infinite wisdom I can't use their products enough without them forcing them down my throat every chance they get.

It's gotten to a point where I change the settings via registery key, but after a few hours it reverts back

[-] utg@mander.xyz 7 points 1 year ago

I've seen many kids well into their 30s, and I've seen many old souls just entering 20s. Maturity comes at different stages for everyone, and some don't get it at all. Don't Overthinking the age gap, what you really need is mental compatibility. If it's there then you'll be fine.

[-] utg@mander.xyz 62 points 1 year ago

Yes, but not in the way you'd think.

I think lemmy won't be easy enough to use for a vast majority of users, they'll stick to the traditional platforms.

However, I think if the hype continues for a while, and the little kinks are ironed out soon enough, it will give rise to a new, different kind of platform.

People have this idea that lemmy will replace reddit and just become Reddit 2.0. I think lemmy is still a place similar to a phoenix burning. The new bird has yet to take it's first breath, and it'll be quiet different from what we imagine or what we are used to today

[-] utg@mander.xyz 3 points 1 year ago

After battling with depression for 6 years, my life turned around. In just under a year, I went from having suicidal thoughts to graduating and landing one of the best jobs in my entire country.

It took me a while to fully accept that good things can happen to me, I think it was almost an entire year before I was in a normal mental state.

Take a deep breath, understand what is the minimum required from you on your new job, do not fall below that, and just let the blissful feelings come in. Enjoy this moment, perhaps years down the line, on a really tough day, you'll remember your current mood and be happy even in face of hardships.

Congrats on finally it to your dream :)

[-] utg@mander.xyz 56 points 1 year ago

Would be funny if they can successfully counter-sue apple to stop using their logo

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Why YSK?

I had a very close brush with depression few years back. It was journaling habit that saved me. Many times you wish to keep your ideas and your health to yourself (or are simply unable to share) this is where journaling can be extremely powerful tool to help yourself

Often times it was very painful to be wanting to speak to someone who could understand the pain and suffering, yet also knowing that there isn't one. It's not that my friends or my parents would shun me away from speaking out or seeking help, but because my depressed mind always circled back to the point that they cannot understand me.

Journaling allowed me to talk to the person who knew all about me; Myself.

I would write a couple of pages about things bothering me, feelings of powerlessness, and just sharing the general hopelessness. Sometimes I would re-read previous pages and it would become an exercise of trying to solve some of the problems. It was like having two different versions of myself speaking to each other. Sometimes one would speak of an issue, the other would try to find a way out, and vice versa.

Over the course of a few months, it was joined by another instance that would comment on my progress over some ideas that I had been thinking over. So, it became sort of scientific process of observation, hypothesis and experiment. At one time I would explain a problem, some time later I would myself come up with a solution that could help it, and soon I would be talking it over with myself about how good it was and suggesting changes to myself after all that experience.

My initial fight with depression has been over for many years now, but I kept journaling. It helped me lose weight, get into shape, set my own goals and start new hobbies even. One thing I want you to know is that at the current moment, I feel as though my depression is like cigarettes. I quit, but every day I still wish to start again. It means that another stressful time at work or even home has the potential to restart depression in my head, and it very nearly did.

It was journaling that alerted me to my changing mental state, enabled me to come up with a strategy to fight back and take back control of my own life.

Mental health is not like other health issues where people can see the effects on your body, your face. If someone can recognize your depression from your behavior, chances are that you have already suffered too much pain. While there are many places that can provide professional help that you may need, I admit that not everyone is in a position to seek it out - like myself. In that case, I hope that this personal experience can be a little helpful

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