I had an extremely good week! Did five workouts this week and went bouldering, met up with friends a few times, went to a really nice beach, got loads of reading and writing done.

I finished the second half of the Two Towers in one day, and previously it had taken me over six months to read the first half. Now I'm blasting through the Return of the King, I've read three chapters today and I'm enjoying reading so much. I havent felt this way since before I started college, but now that I don't have to read academic texts all day, I've been really enjoying reading fiction again.

I've also been writing more than ever, three days this week I wrote over 1000 words and one day I wrote 2000. I've finally started doing the serious stuff that makes it a novel writing project, I've started making character bios, planning scenes and story progression and trying to work out a map. I've been doing a lot of the important world building in my head this week, and I want to get it written down.

I've been in a calorie deficit on track to lose 1 kilo a week, which has felt really good. I've been so damn motivated to exercise.

Also the biggest one, I actually came out as a gender to my first friend irl! I've been very closeted about my gender but now one person in the world knows I'm agender and that is kind of scary. But it's also exciting. Coming out is really weird

[-] spudnik@hexbear.net 4 points 1 month ago

party-blob 6 months nicotine free! party-parrot

[-] moonlake@hexbear.net 3 points 1 month ago

Congratulations on the streak! rat-salute-2

Looking forward to your next milestone, keep us updated sicko-hexbear-crowd

[-] spudnik@hexbear.net 3 points 1 month ago

Tyvm! Will do rat-salute

[-] Mog_Pharou@hexbear.net 3 points 1 month ago

I finally did a handstand pushup on parallettes! Huge gains in mobility recently too.

[-] Wmill@hexbear.net 3 points 1 month ago

My gym time has plummeted these weeks with training course I been doing, tried it the first week with minimal success. My schedule is wake up at 3 make my parents their coffee and oatmeal, cook our lunches, shower and get dressed leave at 5 am to drop off mom to work and head to the training by 6:30 with it starting at 7:30 to 3. Pick up mom at 3:30 and get home by 4:30 make dinner finish and eat by 5:30 and I'm asleep at 7 pm. I should have some time to gym but I'm sometimes too tired or by the time everyone ready to gym it's 6:30.

Today trying something different, I set my crockpot yesterday for some split pea soup, woke up like usual but managed 15 minutes of cardio showered and now it's 4. I think I can probably sneak in 15 minutes a day and that'll energize me for the rest of the day. Gonna try gym but if I can't then at least I did that.

[-] moonlake@hexbear.net 2 points 1 month ago

My May went surprisingly well, I managed to keep up my streaks of meditation and running. I lost at least 1kg, mostly due to my bean burrito meal prep. In June, I want to continue my streaks and habits, continue losing weight and touch grass with friends

[-] DragonBallZinn@hexbear.net 2 points 1 month ago

Benched 225 and finally got a job again in may and still riding that high.

I just blew most of my weekend on RuneScape but I got a 99 in a skill out of it. FWIW it shows I am capable of grinding away at something not too pleasant for a reward.

[-] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 2 points 1 month ago

doggirl-thumbsup still not drinking! i hit two months today

doggirl-thumbsup i hit my weight loss goal of 190 pounds the other day! now i can put it back on!

idk if i have any other goals tbh but i hit both of them and now i guess i can eat ice cream again so that's neat

[-] Wmill@hexbear.net 2 points 1 month ago

forgot to mention 4th day in a row where I be doing my cardio early morning. It's getting easier to keep up but harder to get going. If I can will myself to do it I can bang out 15 mintues going as hard as I can but that whole "well I already did so much all week why don't I rest today" is so hard to drown out. just fighting the eh why bother is my greatest enemy when forming a habit and now that's I'm aware of it gonna moan and complain and still do what I gotta do. also my legs are looking better to boot and my heart feels good same with my brain.

[-] Wmill@hexbear.net 2 points 1 month ago

5th day super rough morning but another 15 minutes of cardio and shower after. Saw my shadow and liking what I look like, my dedication is shaping me into something I'm liking

[-] Wmill@hexbear.net 2 points 1 month ago

2th day in a row I've done some cardio early morning while I prepared for the day, I'm under no illusion cardio alone will help me lose weight but I need to do something for my heart and 15 minutes goes by quick. Also been practicing for my epa license tests I wanna do while I biked, really feeling the grindset.

[-] Wmill@hexbear.net 2 points 1 month ago

3rd day of early cardio, I hate it but the time is going by faster, I know my life will change if this becomes a daily thing.

negative self talk/fatphobia directed at self

I hate being this big stupid and lazy, I know or at least feel people speak over me or look down on me with pity because of it. If I just can do this and my fasts then I feel I got a chance to transform myself by building discipline. I feel part of me is gonna hit a wall what with doing some job training on top of it but I don't know what other choice I got.

I think I at least broke away from the thinking that beautiful people just have it naturally from genetics they work their ass off and just keep it low key. Fasting, exercising, skin care, dressing well, keeping daily hygiene and sleeping enough. All these means reorienting my goals and seeing a bigger picture.

[-] Wmill@hexbear.net 1 points 1 month ago

Even on the weekend I'm going strong with my cardio another 15 minutes

nsfw

using my horn dog tendencies and looking at hot furry suit dance vids on Xiaohongsho while I peddle. I'm at home so it's not weird or anything but I be peddling harder than I thought I ever could ogling my phone.

Afterward my daily shower and just gonna be spending the day studying for my epa license and doing chores and going out to get groceries. I'm also gonna meal prep some more tofu patties and then play a little kiryu-dame-da-ne as a treat.

this post was submitted on 01 Jun 2025

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