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I’m wondering if it’s a Midwest thing, and depends on the cohort, but I’ve noticed that people will spontaneously meet and chat about all sorts of things (from inane to WILD trauma dumps). Anyways just my amateur anthropology lol I typically hear transit reflected as an experience where everyone keeps to themselves

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[-] gramxi@hexbear.net 12 points 2 days ago

From what I've seen in desert west, unless you're hot or the person sitting next to you is trying to peddle something or just has a very loose filter, strangers are far more likely to chat up the bus driver.

The most interaction I've seen is when a group of Mormons started a cringey debate with a group of Mennonites on the train. Everyone else around them very intentionally put on their headphones or stared out the window.

[-] kristina@hexbear.net 5 points 2 days ago

desert west, unless you're hot

I mean everyone is right it's a desert

[-] SpiderFarmer@hexbear.net 8 points 2 days ago

As a Midwesterner, we really do seem overly gregarious. The bus tends to be a bit more cold-shouldered compared to the average population outside of transport, but I think that's largely how miserable and cramped it can be.

Still, I've struck up coversations or been invited to some myself. It's usually more small-talk, but chatting about citylife or books can be a good time.

[-] GaveUp@hexbear.net 3 points 2 days ago

As a Midwesterner, we really do seem overly gregarious

For Americans. Probably closer to average in some other countries

[-] Poetjustice@hexbear.net 7 points 2 days ago

No way in NYC. I live in the outer boroughs so they’re a bit chattier the further you ride away from Manhattan but people still prefer reading a book or listening to something.

[-] WittyProfileName2@hexbear.net 7 points 2 days ago

Here in Wales it's absolutely the case that people'll just dump their entire life story to strangers on public transport (and also at bus stops, train stations, queues in shops, and in the middle of the street if you don't walk away fast enough).

From what I've experienced of England, it's the exact opposite where strangers won't even look you in the eye unless they're drunk in which case they'll suddenly become incredibly chatty.

[-] bananon@hexbear.net 9 points 2 days ago

I happened to be in London right as Brexit was popping off. I was standing in line at a restaurant outside an anti-brexit protest and started chatting with an older guy in front of me about it. He looked at me as if I was absolutely insane.

[-] Lyudmila@hexbear.net 6 points 2 days ago

I regularly make use of my local paratransit service and it basically turns into a rolling social club when they start picking up retirees.

Honestly, it's pretty cool. I've heard a lot of really interesting historical stories about the area that aren't in the history books.

[-] driving_crooner@lemmy.eco.br 8 points 3 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

In Rio de Janeiro this happened a lot. Me and my wife are immigrants in Brazil so if we were talking between ourselves some people just start talking to us, with broken Spanish, and we were like ehh. Now that we live in São Paulo dosen't happen anymore.

[-] WizardOfLoneliness@hexbear.net 6 points 2 days ago

I have no public transit where i live but if i did id spend every second praying some fucker doesn't try to talk to me

[-] imogen_underscore@hexbear.net 4 points 2 days ago

it's a thing in Dublin for sure but usually older people who are doing it

[-] sexywheat@hexbear.net 4 points 2 days ago

Every so often there's that one guy (and yes it's ALWAYS a man) who surveys everyone on the bus, and whatever sucker is unfortunate enough to make eye contact with them is their next victim. The dude will go up and sit next to them and just talk at them ad nauseam until the poor bastard is lucky enough to arrive at their stop. I've seen this happen about three different times and it's always highly uncomfortable for everyone.

Other than that, there's a few regulars who take the same route every day that we chat with, but not usually to strangers.

[-] regul@hexbear.net 6 points 2 days ago

On the West Coast, not usually. Most people who talk on transit to someone who is not their companion are dealing with something.

[-] GaveUp@hexbear.net 7 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Lol when I first moved to SF from another country I made the mistake of letting a woman on the bus know her shoelace was untied. She gave me the dirtiest look and ignored me

Out the corner of my eye a few minutes later I noticed her bending down to tie her shoe

[-] trinicorn@hexbear.net 6 points 2 days ago

A little bit (also in the central us) but its not that frequent

much more common on amtrak

[-] FedPosterman5000@hexbear.net 5 points 2 days ago

Amtrak vibes are also incredible - the last time I rode, people were cracking drinks and pulling out chips and guac etc. Gotta love a train hang with the train gang

[-] cinnaa42@hexbear.net 5 points 2 days ago

absolutely not in southern England

[-] LGOrcStreetSamurai@hexbear.net 5 points 2 days ago

I talk to stranger on public transit on two occasions

1.) when I see some crazy shit, and I give them the “you seeing’ this shit?” Look. That’s the conversation in the whole, the exchange of the look.

2.) when I see something that Signals “I’m a dork ass talk to me”. If I see a a cool nerd shirt, button, or other geeky loser apparel. I say “hey nice trinket! 😄” and if they seem receptive I’ll talk to them

i have no idea because i would never, ever ride transit without noise cancelling headphones

[-] FedPosterman5000@hexbear.net 2 points 2 days ago

Mood. The potholes alone are enough to kill my entire vibe, let alone the threat of conversation

[-] miz@hexbear.net 4 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

to themselves, yea

[-] peppersky@hexbear.net 3 points 2 days ago

I wish they did

[-] Blep@hexbear.net 3 points 2 days ago

Not normally no. If i peep a chess app I'll 1v1 a stranger though

[-] xj9@hexbear.net 2 points 2 days ago

Talking to people on transit seems normal to me, I haven't lived a lot of places where it happens much.

[-] GoodGuyWithACat@hexbear.net 3 points 2 days ago

Protestantism was a human mistake.

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