"Go to therapy."
If it was that easy, I already would be going. 😬
Also the good ol' reply "thanks for offering to pay for it", suddenly they start backtracking
The local leather shop told me that the belt I wanted to make into a spiked watchband wasn't what I wanted. It was exactly what I wanted, and since they disagreed, I just bought the blank belt for myself and made the thing myself.
Then I went back to show them what I wanted all along. Paid more than it should have been worth, but I have extra material to make more custom THICK watchbands, with plenty of extra spikes no less.
Like, I went to the pros, and they told me I didn't want the exact material I pointed at? Threw my head off for a minute, but I was like fuckit, I'll make it myself and show them.
That was last November. I'm quite pleased with what I made.
Are belts and watchbands code for some concepts related to mental health? Given the sub we are in, that is.
The question regards unwanted advice. I sought advice from 'professionals', yet they deterred me from exactly what I wanted.
For me, that causes me a bit of distress, when I have to show the pros how to do what the customer (myself) asked. Yet I ain't getting paid a penny, but I could just as soon be working at their company, fulfilling other customer orders that they turn down.
Edit: I was also hoping to get a job there.
One of the many reasons I quit the trades so dramatically was because I couldn't stand all the unasked advice coming from older men.
If I wanted to be old, miserable, full of hate for my wife and children, full of hate at other people for expressing themselves, full of hate for myself and own a giant savings account full of money I can't enjoy because my body is too broken, then sure I'll listen to what you will say. But I don't want that. I want to be happy with all the nothing I own.
I even went and tattooed both my arms full just to signal that I am dedicated to my mistakes. I'd rather be broke and myself than to live the shallow, object filled existence that they want to live. Where these old miserable men see mistakes, I see experiences and the chance to learn.
Fuck 'em.
"Just ignore it"
Hearing that shit all your life really fucks you to.
If you acted less weird you would have a lot more friends.
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