Not saying you should because it's not exactly a healthy activity, but do be aware that you don't need a group to go raving at DnB nights, it's totally fine to go solo, in fact that was my preferred way of going out. Besides that, sounds like you're just a run off the mill nerd in the best sense of the term.
Hey, it's ok to not fit immediately in a subculture. This just shows how adaptable you are and how wearing different colors actually is a skill. I'm old now, but I can relate since I never found one myself. It was just too hard to let go of my individuality and conform to group thinking. This might be hard to live with but being odd might be a gift in disguise...
Do you have any Hackerspaces/Makerspaces in your area? Usually those kinds of places have lots of others like you. You wouldn't even be considered slightly out of place in my circles, which are usually pretty heavy lgbtq-types, but also full of machinists, battle bots enjoyers, but all the way back to types who like embroidery, etc.
Bonus is mostly places like this leave the politics at home, and keep it just to making/experimenting/hacking/art.
Not sure but will check it out! Thanks!
Based on the self description, this was my first thought as well
Maybe don't try to fit in anywhere. Just be yourself, engage in communities of your interest (online and offline) and you'll surely meet some compatible people. Most of how you described yourself matches with my interests, so there must be more out there. 😉
Some people feel they need to belong to (insert whatever group here) ... Not everyone needs that.
A casual place for banter and anything that doesn't fit in anywhere else.
Have chat and a natter. Talk about anything and everything that's not political!
Keep it casual.
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