(yep, talking about an ex part 2. not the same ex)
so, my friend called one of my exes "julia" a mean person.
content warning: self-harm
julia had a lot of mental problems and frequently resorted to self-harm and alcohol. in fact, back when we started to chat as friends as two mentally ill teens, she said she always had my back.
one day, she told me she was drunk, that her parents weren't home, and confessed that she had feelings for me.
i, being a stupid teen, was too overcome with happiness to take into account that she was drunk, and just outright confessed that i liked her too and was thinking about dating her.
we both agreed that when she was sober, we would decide because she even stated that she was probably just saying that because she was drunk.
a few days later, i couldn't stop thinking about that encounter and julia confessed that she had real feelings for me and wanted to be my girlfriend, not just because she was drunk that one day.
we started dating and she would often mock me, be sarcastic, or make fun of me. i had untreated bipolar and would often withdraw from people or snap "don't be rude to me!" when she would say something.
i would often text very dryly, but i got better. i apologized and she said as long as i didn't snap again, it was okay. i eventually got treated for bipolar.
often, i was very busy with family and we would go places where i couldn't use my phone because we had a rule.
julia would send me numerous texts even when i told her i had to go, saying that she was cutting herself and hearing voices and such and that i should come quickly and stop what i was doing to comfort her.
she would often beg for me not to leave her, and i told her that i would never break up with her (look where that got me), but i was sorry and that i had to leave temporarily sometimes to go with family.
she would continue self-harming whenever i left and saying she was going to kill herself and such.
then she told me she lied and that she didn't actually try to kill herself and asked me why i was worried.
later, she broke up with me, calling me an "abusive fuck" and said she needed some time apart, so i apologized.
after a while, she wanted to be friends again but she blocked me.
my friend then texted her and asked why, and despite the fact that he did this a year after and she now had a boyfriend, she stated she wanted to move on from me.
i left her blocked and she blocked my friend subsequently.
my friend then called her a mean person, but in my opinion, she just had a lot of problems. she could be a really nice person for all i knew, but her mental health was clouding her judgment and personality.