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I had a comically bad day yesterday, like dropping things, almost lost my keys down the drain on the sidewalk, spilled soup at the store near a makeup section, almost tore my pants, got back from the store only to find out I was out of TP, etc.

It was more funny than anything else, like so much random trivial bad luck in one day is like something out of some 90s Tom Hanks comedy.

But there was one thing that actually annoyed me - on my way back from the store on my grocery trip, my phone suddenly went from a healthy 7% to 0% and died. I was stuck with no music for the remainder of the walk back.

Soooo I was forced to listen to the sound of well - nothing at all basically.

Just birds chirping, wind blowing, leaves rustling, all as I walked the same path I walk all the time and see the same things I've seen hundreds of times, just waiting to get home.

Don't get me wrong I love where I live and everything, it's a really cool city with good pedestrian infrastructure, I almost never even get close to a car and it's not some smelly euro village either, but seeing the same things I've already seen and having no stimuli at all, it wasn't that big a deal but it was unpleasant.

That got me thinking - I sometimes see folks not wearing earphones outside, and I've heard on more than one occasion from some acquaintances that they don't listen to music outside, and I wonder - why's that?

Why would you choose to do that?

And, what do y'all like, do, exactly? How do you deal with the monotony of your grocery trips or things like that when you don't even have music on? Do you just never get bored of walking the same roads/neighborhoods w/e day after day?

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[-] SomeAmateur@sh.itjust.works 2 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

I think the question is best answered by reversing it. Why do you choose to listen to music?

Now don't get me wrong I listen to a ton of stuff. I have an mp3 player for air travel and I listen to all kinds of things in my car and for my whole shift at a manufacturing job I used to have.

But out on the street, on a bike or on the trails I never have any music on. From a practical standpoint it's simply safer to be aware of what's going on, but that's not the point for me.

I use that time to just let my mind wander and internalize info I learned that day or to look back on things that happened recently. That boredom is soon replaced with thoughts and daydreams and feelings and memories. And it's nice to see my part of the world as it is, without any filter and seeing how places and people change day by day.

[-] Mechanite@lemmy.world 2 points 3 weeks ago

Same exactly for me. I listen to tons of music at work and at home on my own time. But never outside.

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[-] TrickDacy@lemmy.world 1 points 3 weeks ago

It feels like satire to actually say you cannot imagine life without constantly listening to music. Is it satire?

[-] LainTrain@lemmy.dbzer0.com 0 points 3 weeks ago

No? Lolwut. I don't constantly listen to music. I mostly listen to it when outside when I'm on a grocery store walk, because there isn't really anything else to do except walk to the store and walk back

[-] TrickDacy@lemmy.world 2 points 3 weeks ago

Really focusing on the wrong thing here. I hope this is satire

[-] LainTrain@lemmy.dbzer0.com 0 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

So are you gonna explain your point or just keep feigning shock at what is fairly normal and common IRL?

I'm starting to think you must not go outside very much, because when I look around, people who don't have earphones in are very much the exception, they stand out, hence the question, and on a personal level I honestly don't even know any people IRL who just march on alone without music or like some podcast or audiobook or something.

My girlfriend does this, all my friends do this, the only people who do not do this are usually some older people with kids when they're out with their kids, but then again they're not really on their own, and obviously I wouldn't listen to music on a walk if I was with somebody for that walk like on the weekends etc.

[-] TrickDacy@lemmy.world 1 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

I didn't think I needed to explain that talking about experiencing reality as though it were a burden is...odd. Even if half the thread weren't saying that specifically.

I use headphones a lot, too much, but I would probably seek therapy if I ever had my headphones stop working and subsequently thought hearing the natural sounds of the world around me was notable enough to talk about negatively.

[-] LainTrain@lemmy.dbzer0.com 0 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

When there's no novelty of course it's a burden lol, staring off into things I already have seen and know is not exactly intellectually stimulating or enjoyable.

And idk, it's not odd at all, we humans have put massive amounts of time and resources into entertainment for this very purpose, the vast majority of people don't enjoy staring off into nothing till their eyes unfocus, only the extremely online people think that's what people want.

Like I said elsewhere, the few people who do not have earphones in going about their chores stand out, they are very much in the minority, and they are few and far between and I don't know a single person like that IRL.

Were this not the case, we wouldn't even have entertainment, nevermind billions of dollars spent on movies, shows, albums, fiction and non-fiction books, newspapers etc.

Heck I'd go as far as to say that all religion, science and philosophy that did not serve immediate purpose of finding the next meal was created so we could better our lot - which inherently is maximizing happiness, and that inherently includes intellectual stimulation and fulfillment.

I prefer to keep my brain going all the time if I can, it feels much better, always engaging with new art or new ideas inner and outer alike.

[-] TrickDacy@lemmy.world 1 points 3 weeks ago

This is really, really sad. If this had always been the case, most of the world's inventions and art, including entertainment, wouldn't exist today. It's objectively a fact that people need to be bored/idle to be at their most creative.

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[-] TrickDacy@lemmy.world 1 points 3 weeks ago

What you've done is develop an unhealthy addiction and you think literally everyone else has too. But they haven't. You literally miss the entire world around you and declared it boring. I assume you're quite young and developed an addiction to screen time since an age before you can actually remember any other way. Talk to any mental health professional, they'll tell you what I'm telling you.

[-] Aeao@lemmy.world 0 points 3 weeks ago

Wow I finally meet someone without adhd.

What’s it like? I bet it’s awesome. So do you just wake up and get stuff done? It’s like being a wizard I bet.

[-] TrickDacy@lemmy.world 1 points 3 weeks ago

I have severe ADHD. Rules my life. Doesn't mean I cannot imagine a moment without headphones.

[-] Aeao@lemmy.world 0 points 3 weeks ago

Damn. One day I’ll meet one.

It was a joke.

I have severe ADHD as well. Not everyone has the same symptoms. Good job on keeping your comment short and concise. I can’t do that.

Do you have trouble memorizing facial features. Can you hold eye contact? Do you know your age without doing math?

There are so many symptoms one can have with adhd. A lot of us get really frustrated if we have to focus on one thing. I need my podcasts. I’m listening to Robert Evan’s talk about Jamaican slavery while writing this.

I can’t just do one thing. That’s crazy to imagine. I love listening to nature, I just do it while doing something else. I’m able to focus on both, I have to focus on both.

[-] TrickDacy@lemmy.world 1 points 3 weeks ago

The reason op is getting the response they're getting here is they're acting like it's weird not to always use headphones. When in fact it's not, at all

[-] Treczoks@lemmy.world 1 points 3 weeks ago

I actually pay attention to my environment? I don't walk onto a busy road without looking?

[-] Sibbo@sopuli.xyz 1 points 3 weeks ago

Enjoy the world around me. Using the extra sensory input to avoid being run over by cars.

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[-] faintwhenfree@lemmus.org 1 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

Sorry OP, you got downvoted in so many comments, some of which I thought was undeserved, but some of it is deserved. You asked a question, but came off as wanting to prove everyone else who doesn't listen to music is crazy. Everyone is different, you do you. I think it's very important to train brain to be content without any stimulation and therefore, I think, I play music in my brain, I plan rest of my day or next day, and most of all I introspect when I'm walking around.

And my life isn't even complicated and I find tons of things to Introspect, so hard for me to imagine people get bored with introspection, but you do you. If boredom is such a massive problem for you because of ADHD, perhaps carry a power bank.

[-] swelter_spark@reddthat.com 1 points 3 weeks ago

I look at and listen to what's going on around me, and think about what I see and hear.

[-] dejected_warp_core@lemmy.world 1 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

Why would you choose to do that?

I'm easily distracted and am usually occupied with my own thoughts. So, not hearing traffic, other people, and my general surroundings is actually stressful for me; relying on vision alone would be dangerous. I do a lot better keeping my ears open so I can relax, muse about this or that in my head, and let any sudden sounds or irregularities in my environment catch my attention.

Edit: By musing, I'm actively problem-solving fix-it situations in my house, thinking about software projects I have going, exercising mindfulness for better mental heath, self-assessing where my body aches/hurts, building fictional narratives for D&D, and so on. It's seldom idle time up in here.

[-] wildcardology@lemmy.world 1 points 3 weeks ago

Outside with other people is a dangerous place. Environmental awareness is needed. You'll need your eyes and ears to sense danger.

[-] SolarBoy@slrpnk.net 1 points 3 weeks ago

I don't even listen to music on a regular basis when I'm inside. It's more something I would do actively from time to time, say a couple of times per month.

[-] markz@suppo.fi 1 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

Just birds chirping, wind blowing, leaves rustling

To me that just sounds kinda nice

[-] MarieMarion@literature.cafe 1 points 3 weeks ago

I never listen to music. When I'm running errands, I listen to the birds and the wind. I watch the leaves change colors. I chat with people I know by sight. I stop by stores I don't need anything from just to chat with the owners. I meet friends doing their shopping and we decide to go to see a play next weekend. I sit down at a terrasse to have coffee with my kid's former piano teacher. Think the movie Amelie, but in small-town France instead of Paris. I love my life.

[-] zout@fedia.io 1 points 3 weeks ago

Did you write this post deliberately to trigger us? Some examples; The phone died when it should have 7% left, spilling soup at a store, smelly euro village and of course the main question.

[-] Blue_Morpho@lemmy.world 1 points 3 weeks ago

This is 100% ironic bait.

But to answer the question, you shouldn't use headphones because they are dependent on your phone. You use this because it runs on its own D Cells and doesn't need cell service.

Keeping good music to yourself is rude.

[-] titanicx@lemmy.zip 1 points 3 weeks ago

Time to go on a relaxing hike.

[-] Perspectivist@feddit.uk 1 points 3 weeks ago

This reads like satire but I assume you're being serious.

I'm not really doing anything instead. I'm listening in both cases - only the what I'm listening to changes. Listening to music - or podcasts in my case - is a bit of an distraction. I don't want to be distracted all the time. I'm more present when I'm listening to the world instead, and it gives more space for my thoughts. I never even have the radio on in my car because to me, driving is almost a meditative experience and I like to just sit there in relative silence and focus on the driving itself. I'm stimulated one way or another for the vast majority of the day anyway. I think it's good to have these intentional moments built into your daily routine where you let yourself be bored. It's good for you.

[-] falseWhite@lemmy.world 1 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

Are you trolling us?

If not, try getting into meditation, so you can learn to appreciate the moment for what it is, rather than seek constant stimulation.

Technology is ruining humanity, no wonder so many people are lonely and depressed.

[-] LainTrain@lemmy.dbzer0.com 0 points 3 weeks ago

Da hell? I'm not lonely or depressed, are you nuts?

Carrying grocery bags to and from my flat isn't "appreciating the moment", I do this every other day, it's just boring and routine so I throw some music on to keep it fun and so I can do something more proactive mentally rather than just stare off towards my feet or surroundings I literally always see anyway.

[-] falseWhite@lemmy.world 1 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

All I'm saying is it's clearly a big issue for you not being constantly stimulated if you took the time to create a whole post about this and answer every other stranger's comment. Meditation is just one of the options to address this issue, the best one IMO. You don't have to be sad or depressed to practice meditation.

[-] Typhoon@lemmy.ca 0 points 3 weeks ago

you took the time to create a whole post about this and answer every other stranger’s comment.

OP's not here for an answer. They're here for an argument. That's why they're replying to everyone to disagree.

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[-] RBWells@lemmy.world 1 points 3 weeks ago

I like music, love music, keep it on in the house and car but do not like headphones and wouldn't dare use them on a walk or run because I'd get run over by a car.

I like the sound of the city, the birds singing, the crows cawing, kids yelling, even the distant sirens and LOVE the distant music of parties, so much. Cars going by with music. Incidental sound is engaging IMO not boring.

[-] IWW4@lemmy.zip 1 points 3 weeks ago

/boggle

I don’t require constant stimulation.

[-] Nemo@slrpnk.net 1 points 3 weeks ago

I do, but the leaves rustling and birds chirping provides it for me. OP describing that as a bad thing is what boggles me.

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[-] CompactFlax@discuss.tchncs.de 0 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

Don’t tell this person about the times before the ubiquity of iPods (and later, phones).

OP, might I suggest a “music” detox? Spend a month without the need for headphone delivered dopamine.

[-] LainTrain@lemmy.dbzer0.com 0 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

Why would I ever do a "music" detox? Why is "music" in quotes? What else would I be listening to?

And what would I do such a thing for?

Turn my grocery shopping into a drag instead of a moment to enjoy and kind of a highlight of the day at times?

[-] CompactFlax@discuss.tchncs.de 1 points 3 weeks ago

If listening to birds chirping and wind blowing through trees while you’re out for a walk is “no stimuli” you have a problem.

[-] LainTrain@lemmy.dbzer0.com 0 points 3 weeks ago

Then so does most everyone. It's one thing to be "out for a walk" with the purpose of a walk, like in the forest or a park, but it's a whole other thing to be walking for groceries and day after day just zoning out into the same things over and over. That's insanity.

[-] CompactFlax@discuss.tchncs.de 1 points 3 weeks ago

That’s, erm, life m8.

[-] eugenevdebs@lemmy.dbzer0.com 0 points 3 weeks ago

Weird how you're getting shit on for asking a question in "no stupid questions." Fucking NT people acting high and mighty.

[-] LainTrain@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

Aye

We all know what's really going on ITT.

[-] eugenevdebs@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 3 weeks ago

Ableism and then acting like we're the assholes for defending ourselves.

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