Those behaviors were only included in the DSM-5 and you can still get enough symptoms to qualify without expressing them, and they also overlap with a "fight" trauma response.

And more importantly, the DSM-5 only describes the behaviors of children, not the inner life, coping mechanisms, or explanations of adults.

I have seen how autistic women were treated, how their lived experiences were dismissed for years because their behavior didn't match that of WEIRD autistic boys under patriarchy. I have seen how trans people were treated, how their lived experiences and scientific research backing them up were dismissed for years because psychiatrists are predominantly WEIRD conservatives. Your argument fits in that same pattern of structural dismissal.

I'm sorry, but your field is rotten. The structures by which you work and the ways you've been taught to think cause harm, prioritizing categorization and paternalism over reality. Every good psychologist I've worked with treats diagnoses as an arbitrary hoop to jump through, and every bad one has prioritised the protocols and standards over my lived experience. People do good in spite of the DSM, not because of it.

If we manage to stop these disparate forms of hierarchical exploitation from boiling us all to death, the decolonisation of mental wellbeing will continue. You can either continue to be on the side of the colonizer, ordering people how to think about themselves even as we dismantle your authority, or you can turn your criticism constructive. Help build structures that reclaim the good from that outdated field and cooperating with people to self-identify more accurately and more quickly.

You can't stop us from producing our own medicine. You can't stop us from calling ourselves what we want. You can't stop us from bootlegging techniques that help us and adjusting them to our needs. Unless you side with the hierarchical systems that are burning this world alive, then you might have a chance before you burn too.