41
submitted 13 hours ago by Zonefive@sh.itjust.works to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

Water usage is probably my biggest. Living in a high desert, my wife and MIL see no problem with filling one side of the sink with hot soapy water to wash a few dishes because “that’s just how I’ve always done it”, to watering the grass and plants for hours. All of this makes me mental.

top 50 comments
sorted by: hot top controversial new old
[-] Archr@lemmy.world 2 points 1 hour ago

The abortion debate will never be resolved.

This is mainly from the two sides arguing about different things.

Pro-life is about how a life starts at conception which means that abortion is murder. Pro-choice is about how women should have a choice to have an abortion.

[-] gointhefridge@lemmy.zip 1 points 1 hour ago

Lulu’s Bakery on Union Turnpike in Fresh Meadows makes the best chocolate frosted doughnut in NY and possibly the US. I haven’t even had THAT many chocolate frosted doughnuts around the country, but I don’t know how someone makes a chocolate frosted doughnut better than that.

[-] tastemyglaive@lemmy.ml 1 points 2 hours ago

French cuisine is extremely overrated

[-] ultranaut@lemmy.world 3 points 3 hours ago

Keep right except to pass. The passing lane is for passing.

[-] ThuggyG@piefed.ca 3 points 3 hours ago

I think Bernie was an idealist and I don’t buy in to a lot of his ideas while appreciating his work to create real change. Don’t crucify me for this.

I wholeheartedly believe there is an alternate timeline where Bernie won the 2016 democratic nomination and won the presidency and we avoided all this shit.

[-] W3dd1e@lemmy.zip 6 points 4 hours ago

The Cowboy Bebop remake by Netflix was mostly good. It failed because Netflix didn’t advertise “normies” correctly.

[-] Postmortal_Pop@lemmy.world 3 points 4 hours ago

I loved it! It's not as good as the anime but it has this beautiful vibe to it. Like 3 college students made it as their passion project and just so happened to have a stoned uncle who does top notch CG work. I also liked that Faye wasn't slut coded. All in all, it's just good.

[-] Lumelore@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 5 hours ago

My biggest pet peeve is people who scalp their lawns and spray shit all over it to make it green and kill the bugs. If it didn't kill the buggies 'n stuff I wouldn't care so much but I'd still think it's dumb cause all they need to do is not mow so aggressively and plant some clover to fix the nitrogen. Like their lawn needs less maintenance not more. Stop fucking spraying shit all over your lawn please AAAAAAAAAAAAAA.

[-] Beth@piefed.social 2 points 6 hours ago

There is no free will. None whatsoever.

[-] a9249@lemmy.ca 1 points 4 hours ago
[-] Beth@piefed.social 1 points 4 hours ago

My masters in people science, fieldwork, etc.

[-] andrewta@lemmy.world 17 points 11 hours ago

Getting married without a prenup in today’s world is foolish. Ask marriage counselors and they will in general tell you to get a prenup. A prenup is wrote by two people and both have their own attorney. Anyone who refuses to get one or even discuss one is someone you should run from. A prenup details how a divorce AND how a marriage should run.

Also anyone who wants operating system or device level age verification doesn’t understand how bad things will get if we do that. It’s only about mass surveillance and selling of your data. It does nothing to protect kids.

[-] Vanth@reddthat.com 5 points 11 hours ago

(US context) The advice I got was that every marriage has a prenup. If the couple doesn't write it, it's just the default prenup their state wrote and it's going to be crap for both people.

[-] andrewta@lemmy.world 2 points 10 hours ago

That’s exactly correct

[-] DagwoodIII@piefed.social 4 points 11 hours ago

I remember a science fiction story where the marriage license has a seven year term and has to be renewed periodically.

[-] andrewta@lemmy.world 3 points 10 hours ago

That’s an interesting concept

[-] DagwoodIII@piefed.social 1 points 9 hours ago

"The Puppet Masters" by Robert A. Heinlein. There's an acceptable movie version of the book. The marriage scene isn't in the movie, though.

[-] fizzle@quokk.au 4 points 8 hours ago

Cashiers here have started saying "have a good rest of your day" instead of "have a good afternoon" or something.

It never used to be a phrase.

Its very common now.

I understand that language evolves and that this is probably used often enough to be dramatically "appropriate" now, but i just hate it.

Some how the grammar is just discordant and I find it jarring every time.

Of course, I dont tell cashiers about this grievance, because I appreciate them and I understand this is just me being weird and I try to get through my day offending the fewest service workers as possible.

[-] blackbrook@mander.xyz 2 points 5 hours ago

If you compare it to "have a good day", it's longer and awkwarder, and the extra words are to avoid...the scenario of someone complaining that part of the day has already passed and can no longer be nice?

In the same vein of unnecessary specificity: I hate when waiters ask "how is everything tasting?" I have to resist replying that it tastes great but it's cold and the texture makes me want to gag.

load more comments (3 replies)
[-] Naich@piefed.world 5 points 9 hours ago

Private ownership of vehicles should be banned. Most people's cars are unused for 90% of the day, which is insanely inefficient. Have a pool of cars they anyone can hire just for the time they need them. It would be cheaper for everyone and there wouldn't be three fuck ugly cars in front of every house.

[-] geneva_convenience@lemmy.ml 8 points 4 hours ago

Problem is that almost everyone is using them at the exact same time every day to get from and to work.

[-] a9249@lemmy.ca 5 points 4 hours ago

We had Car2Go in our city, but they went bankrupt because of the tragedy of the commons- got trashed by both terrible drivers and slobs who made every surface sticky.... We need a drastically different education and culture first. [might work in japan]

[-] fizzle@quokk.au 2 points 8 hours ago

In my area, as in many others, we had a few e-scooter rental companies for a few months. They pretty much just weren't viable because people didnt care for the stuff. Basically if its rented, people will only care in so far as they can be held responsible.

Additionally, public transport doesn't really work here because we dont have the population density.

[-] Paragone@piefed.social 1 points 6 hours ago

That principle is important.

In any system where goods ( of some kind ) are not owned by the people using them, then you have to make those goods near-impossible-to-break, which is part of where communist Brutalism aesthetic comes from.

There was a book by a shelled-moluscs scientist who was born blind: he sees through his fingertips.

He's the one who pointed that principle out, having lived in communism for part of his life, & once the principle's understood, it can't be unseen.

Know somebody who cares for their tools like jewelry?

They'd all be destroyed, pronto, in communism.

That's the price that gets paid when nobody owns what they're using.

And THAT principle, means that it then becomes possible to design means-sharing-systems that can work.

The e-scooter rental systems that many cities now have, is 1 example: idiotproof, indestructible, & they enable significant improvement in the city.

But consider contractors who need to be able to get anywhere, with their tools..

public transport may break their work.

Rurally, not having a vehicle's .. often suicide.

& if the city's designed like US cities, towns, & villages, where they engineer it to break any other form of transport, then you cannot get to the supermarket without a car, from many locations.

It takes much more whole-systems orientation, to get it right, than what the US has been doing..

< shruggeth >

just some perspectives, is all..

_ /\ _

[-] a9249@lemmy.ca 1 points 4 hours ago

Yes, its known as tragedy of the commons.

[-] MrVilliam@sh.itjust.works 12 points 11 hours ago

In relation to your hill: While you're entirely correct, that's absurdly small potatoes compared to industrial water use. Yes, we should be conscious of our water use and limit unnecessary overuse, but a higher priority ought to be regulating industrial use. Data centers are the obvious example of using way too much for bullshit that ain't worth the water or power. Speaking of power, we could reduce water use by power plants. Nearly all generate power by boiling water. I'm a power plant operator at a plant that happens to use reclaim water as our source water, and we purify on-site for the main process, and we have a brine concentrator and crystallizer on-site to recycle the cooling tower blowdown and remove the solids to a dumpster that goes to a landfill. Unfortunately we burn methane, so I can't say that we're green, but we at least discharge zero water into local waterways (except storm drains when it rains).

My hill: Vote with your wallet. If you really believe in something, stop giving money to companies fighting against it. I won't buy chikfila because the owners actively spend money on gay conversion camps and lobby to reverse the legality of same sex marriage. It's impossible to research every little thing before every purchase, and sometimes there's no reasonable alternative, but something like chikfila is easy to avoid. There is no ethical consumption under capitalism, but don't let perfect be the enemy of good. Little changes can add up, and doing anything even a little bit better is an improvement over not trying.

Bonus hill: Put your fucking grocery cart into the cart corral. It takes ten seconds and prevents cars from getting hit. It's kind of the simplest measure for societal decency. I don't believe in the death penalty, but what value are you contributing to society if you're too selfish to return your fucking cart?

[-] CascadianGiraffe@lemmy.world 4 points 9 hours ago* (last edited 9 hours ago)

www.Goodsuniteus.com is a start to seeing where your money goes. Still looking for a better alternative.

The good news is as the giant evil corporations buy up everything it gets easier to just stop buying shit in general.

[-] luthis@lemmy.nz 29 points 13 hours ago

“that’s just how I’ve always done it” is the worst when it's used as an excuse to avoid putting effort into personal growth

load more comments (1 replies)
[-] expatriado@lemmy.world 14 points 12 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago)

my hill: when i post an asklemmy, i place my answer as a comment, so the thread doesn't become a bunch of replies to my personal answer, so each reply to the post relates directly to the original question

[-] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 11 points 12 hours ago

I’m not going to eat a fucking hot dog, I don’t care how much everyone else pretends to enjoy them, they’re a crime against food and decency.

[-] mech@feddit.org 4 points 11 hours ago

Eating a hot dog on a Friday violates all major religions' rules on food.
Islam: No pork
Hinduism: No beef
Buddhism: No meat
Catholicism: No meat on Fridays
Discordianism: No hot dogs

[-] pinball_wizard@lemmy.zip 2 points 3 hours ago

Eating a hot dog on a Friday violates all major religions' rules on food.

Nice. That's the best part.

[-] Maeve@kbin.earth 4 points 10 hours ago

Plenty of Buddhists eat meat. Often

[-] mech@feddit.org 3 points 10 hours ago

And plenty of Catholics eat meat on Fridays.

[-] Maeve@kbin.earth 2 points 10 hours ago

I think they did away with that rule lol. Plenty of Hindus love cheeseburgers.

[-] crawancon@piefed.social 4 points 11 hours ago

I tell ya you're not missing much.

even the best hot dog is, well,l still just a hotdog.

[-] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 3 points 11 hours ago

I’ve had hot dogs, I know what I’m missing and I do not miss it.

load more comments (2 replies)
[-] arcine@jlai.lu 3 points 9 hours ago

Water usage but in the opposite direction. Yes, I'm going to take a bath. No, I don't think it makes any actual difference ; go blow up a factory or a data centre if you care so much about water. (Or maybe do it even if you don't, it never hurts !)

[-] zeppo@lemmy.world 8 points 13 hours ago

I hate doing dishes like that anyway. I just scrub them one at a time under running water after letting them soak in whatever water can fill in. I don’t really think of the sink as a sanitary item regardless of how much you clean it. The drain is always going to be gross.

[-] HubertManne@piefed.social 0 points 6 hours ago
[-] a9249@lemmy.ca 1 points 4 hours ago

Have you read all of human history ?

[-] DagwoodIII@piefed.social 7 points 13 hours ago* (last edited 11 hours ago)

[off topic]

Have you tried replacing the grass with local flora?

Also, what your family uses is a drop in the bucket compared to what your local industry wastes.

There are probably a dozen or more open air, private swimming pools that sit filled, full of chemicals, and unused 350 days a year, within walking distance of your place.

[-] Zonefive@sh.itjust.works 1 points 8 hours ago

I’m very anti-lawn and would love replacing it with native wild flowers. We unfortunately don’t own the house, a friend does. I may throw down some clover seed, which uses less water as a small defiant act.

And, yes, our city has the pools, at least a dozen 18 hole golf courses and three day a week watering. Absurd since we’re on the verge of drought every year. Hopefully the powers that be known what they’re doing

[-] zeppo@lemmy.world 7 points 12 hours ago* (last edited 12 hours ago)

I checked out the gym near me, lifetime, who charge $330 a month. They have a heated Olympic size swimming pool outdoors year-round, in a climate that gets a fair amount of snow in the winter. So that’s what rich people do with our resources.

As far as water, yeah. Even in very arid places, it’s permitted to do agriculture to grow things like hay and use 80% of the local water supply. Even better, there’s a trend in the US where people from places like Saudi Arabia grow the hay, use our water, and then export it.

[-] DagwoodIII@piefed.social 4 points 11 hours ago

The people at that gym aren't 'rich.'

The rich folks are the ones with their own Olympic sized pools.

[-] zeppo@lemmy.world 1 points 7 hours ago

It’s just a matter of degree. Sure, we could take someone who has a net worth of $30 million and say well, that’s nothing, some people have 30 billion. People who are paying over $300 a month for a gym membership have a lot more money than people who are trying to afford $25 a month.

load more comments
view more: next ›
this post was submitted on 14 Mar 2026
41 points (100.0% liked)

Asklemmy

53540 readers
711 users here now

A loosely moderated place to ask open-ended questions

Search asklemmy 🔍

If your post meets the following criteria, it's welcome here!

  1. Open-ended question
  2. Not offensive: at this point, we do not have the bandwidth to moderate overtly political discussions. Assume best intent and be excellent to each other.
  3. Not regarding using or support for Lemmy: context, see the list of support communities and tools for finding communities below
  4. Not ad nauseam inducing: please make sure it is a question that would be new to most members
  5. An actual topic of discussion

Looking for support?

Looking for a community?

~Icon~ ~by~ ~@Double_A@discuss.tchncs.de~

founded 6 years ago
MODERATORS