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submitted 2 years ago by SamXavia@kbin.run to c/games@lemmy.world

I seem to have a problem with moderating myself when it comes to playtime on Video Games, How do you keep yourself from just endlessly playing games?

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[-] Raphipod@lemmy.world 68 points 2 years ago

Umm… having a job? Takes care of that problem very easily.

[-] Vlyn@lemmy.zip 14 points 2 years ago
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[-] SamXavia@kbin.run 3 points 2 years ago

@Raphipod So I can't really get a normal job but hope to create my own business to fill up my 'non-gaming time'. It's just trying to not slowly fill that time up with "You know I'll play a game" and then loose another 3 days just mindlessly gaming for hours on end.

[-] lolcatnip@reddthat.com 42 points 2 years ago

Wait 10-20 years. Play games that are way too large and complex for your attention span. Build up such a huge Steam backlog that whenever you try to play a game, you feel guilty about all the ones you're not playing. Play games that require reflexes better than the ones you have.

Using these tricks, I've cut my gaming time down almost to zero!

[-] PeterPoopshit@lemmy.world 3 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

Yep. If you're a teen and worrying about enjoying video games too much, just enjoy it while it lasts. There a lot of worse stuff you could be doing, like meth.

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[-] JoMiran@lemmy.ml 38 points 2 years ago

Do you play games, or do you play a game endlessly. If it's games then it might be easier to sprinkle other activities into the mix like learning to play a musical instrument, etc. If it's a game, especially if it's a live service game, MMO, hatch's, etc, then they might have successfully tapped into "your formula", in which case if recommend dropping the game entirely. Games like that are specifically designed to keep you playing indefinitely.

Source: I'm a former Destiny addict.

[-] FunkyMonk@kbin.social 10 points 2 years ago

As a lifetime gamer (40s) staying away from 'service' games with an endless endgame really does help for self regulation. If there is 'a game' that you just zonk out on the gameplay loop thats the blurst. If I get a game I like it to be a game with a conrete ending now, there is a 'final' final boss, there is a dungeon meant to be the last challege. If it's just 'SUPER HARD AREA X WITH DROPRATE OF THING YOU WANT' fuck that. Especially if you hear game dev talk about having to design these kind of casino models really turns you off to them.

[-] SamXavia@kbin.run 3 points 2 years ago

@FunkyMonk I'm glad I never have really got into MMOs. Thank you, I'll most likely have to seek help but hopefully with some of the things people have suggested I can at least take the first steps to helping my life.

[-] Hazzard@lemm.ee 4 points 2 years ago

So true, I have to do this with some predatory mobile game or another every year or two. Sometimes one of them just gets you.

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[-] iltoroargento@lemmy.sdf.org 17 points 2 years ago

Honestly, mine came about organically with other responsibilities and interests.

Earlier on, I'd moderated myself but picking up another hobby, like playing bass guitar and adding that into my priorities.

Once out of college, other priorities, like making better than decent meals, my significant other, and continuing my tabletop RPG crew kinda helped me stop spending endless weekend or day off hours on a game.

Probably, the largest piece for me is having a family and a friend group that I care to keep up with. When I was younger, I escaped through games, but now I use them more like how I use a book or TV series and look for experiences I'll find meaningful instead of just grinding rep or xp points in a loop.

[-] SamXavia@kbin.run 3 points 2 years ago

@iltoroargento Thank you, I feel like pushing for some of the other hobbies I have such as Video Editing is a more healthy way to express myself. Sometimes it feels like I just get swallowed by the idea of gaming.

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[-] hogart@feddit.nu 15 points 2 years ago

Multiplayer games in general are hard to regulate. MMO's, Mobas, FPS, ARPGs. This games are designed to swallow weeks of your life before you react. When I stopped playing these type of games it didn't become as much of a problem to regulate my gaming.

Write down what an optimal day for someone your age, in your living area, looks like. Weekly activities. Exercise. Etc. Start implementing the we things into your life at a pace that isn't to slow but not too fast either.

Set goals what most of your days should consist of. Most days. Don't set routines that are too nailed down. Don't go overboard. Excersise three times a week? Two days need to be back to back but the third can be anytime during the week? Things like that.

Work this into your routine. Take one step at a time.

If I regret one thing at the age of 37 it would be not having some kind of exercise in my weekly routine from my early 20s. I would be in sooo much better shape, have more energy, be more alert.

Balance in everything is key.

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[-] FoundTheVegan@kbin.social 15 points 2 years ago

By staying the fuck away from MMOs. 😂 🙃

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[-] TORFdot0@lemmy.world 14 points 2 years ago

Have children. You’ll be too tired to play more than 30 minutes a night

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[-] ArbiterXero@lemmy.world 13 points 2 years ago

You have to find other outlets.

It’s a long process with therapy etc…

But you have to find something else that’s more important to you. Video games are designed to appeal to your need for quick feedback, and it’s awful

This may require some significant lifestyle changes.

[-] Mago@lemmy.world 10 points 2 years ago

Finding a hobby does not involve therapy lmao literally just try different activities until something makes you feel like you are playing your favorite game.

[-] mojo@lemm.ee 3 points 2 years ago

That's basically what a therapist would tell someone anyways. Therapy can't make you magically find the new hobby you like.

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[-] Ghostlight@lemmy.world 12 points 2 years ago

Get married and have a kid, you'll moderate yourself quickly, don't you worry about that my friend.

[-] nodimetotie@lemmy.world 7 points 2 years ago

Unfortunately this kills off all the hobbies, not just gaming. And your free time(

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[-] NightOwl@lemmy.one 10 points 2 years ago

Short attention span leading to doing gaming in short bursts. Sometimes I lose interest in games for months and get more into the mood to watch TV shows and movies. Then lose interest in that and move to reading then lose interest in that and going back to gaming. Rinse and repeat. Has helped me avoid the whole not having fun with games anymore threads that I'd see a lot, since my focus just naturally shifts back and forth to keep things feeling fresh.

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[-] Enzy@lemm.ee 10 points 2 years ago
[-] OmegaMouse@feddit.uk 10 points 2 years ago

I agree with what others have said about gamifying life. For example, 'oh it's 5pm, I need to spend 30 minutes doing some tidying before I can play a game again'. And for games with no clear end point, set yourself goals so you know when to take a break. 'Once I've built this factory, I need to take an hour's break before I can play again'.

[-] SamXavia@kbin.run 3 points 2 years ago

@OmegaMouse It's actually what I've been trying out today, I didn't know that's what people meant by Gamify your life I more thought they were saying to give myself a score for doing tasks and stuff.

Currently doing play a game of CS2, if I win then I have less work to do but if I lose I have to do twice the amount of work and then I can go back on. This is almost like a reward / punishment system for myself to try and not only play the game (or not lol) and then just do the task. Once I have no tasks left I'm free to enjoy what ever game I like without worrying about they I got that thing to do.

I hope this could possibly work in the long run.

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[-] Scrof@sopuli.xyz 7 points 2 years ago

Depression? Don't try that at home, would not recommend!

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[-] kandoh@reddthat.com 7 points 2 years ago

When you get older it gets harder and harder to play video games frequently.

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[-] Monster96@lemmy.world 7 points 2 years ago

I recommend having no job and having the feeling that you're wasting your life and feel like a NEET. That always helps me stop playing games

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[-] WeLoveCastingSpellz@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

I don't like being interrupted while gaming so as a student I study till a certain hour than I do whatever (maybe gaming) till 11PM

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[-] Curdie@lemmy.world 6 points 2 years ago

I think the best way to moderate gaming addiction is to be deliberate and disciplined about your goals. I love gaming and don't want to be interrupted, so I try to deal with responsibilities first, to get more enjoyment out of an uninterrupted gaming session. Make hard rules for yourself. You want to be fit? Work out before gaming. You don't even need a great workout routine; consistency will get you there. Use your drive for gaming to reach your goals. That's my opinion

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[-] DarkMessiah@lemmy.world 5 points 2 years ago

I only really tend to play with a group of mates - the most fun to play with is like four or five hours ahead of me, so when they hop off, the whole group tends to head off at the same time. If we don’t, it’s usually just a smaller game that we have fun with for like an hour before finishing.

Basically, I push being responsible off onto someone who is actually responsible.

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[-] Yokozuna@lemmy.world 5 points 2 years ago

Best thing to do for me is to just look at the clock and set a time to get off, depending on the length I want to sit down it's usually 1-3 hours. Usually when that time comes around I notice what I'm doing in game and realize without that time limiting I would probably stay on for way longer.

[-] kttnpunk@lemmy.world 5 points 2 years ago

How do you enjoy playing video games endlessly when life is passing you by, skills are going unlearnt and passions undiscovered?

[-] SamXavia@kbin.run 4 points 2 years ago

@kttnpunk I think it's because I've had a lot of issues in my past and not many people want me around in life so that's a stuggle, So I end up doing the only thing that seems to want me, what is Video Games.

I have a passion in Video Editing that I'm trying to replace some of my Video Game habits with, my first day of attending to do some and then game for a round or so and then back to editing went pretty good, hopefully I can get to the stage I just work on projects instead of gaming all the time.

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[-] bonus_crab@lemmy.world 5 points 2 years ago

If youre adhd try gamifying aspects of your life.

[-] SamXavia@kbin.run 2 points 2 years ago

@bonus_crab I have Autism but I suspect that I most likely have ADHD as well, I've thought about this before and it really interested me do you have any recommended apps to manage gamifying my life?

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[-] AphoticDev@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 2 years ago

Listen, if you are neglecting your household chores or other important duties, then it doesn't really matter how much time you spend playing games. Time you enjoyed spending is never wasted, and if you enjoy playing games on your downtime, then do it.

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[-] Jaeger86@lemmy.world 5 points 2 years ago

My big thing after graduating like others have said we're other hobbies, I got into painting, 3d printing, sometimes just watching TV. Most of the games I play now are single player I hardly play multiplayer games anymore. I used to be too into destiny and games like that but I just eventually wanted to play games I could pause and go do other shit

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[-] samus12345@lemmy.world 4 points 2 years ago

I'm glad they got rid of that huge light on the controller with the PS5.

[-] andyMFK@reddthat.com 4 points 2 years ago

It's pretty self moderating. Every 5 years or so there's a game i might be mildly interested in, play it for a few hours until I'm bored of it. Rinse and repeat

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[-] jjjalljs@ttrpg.network 3 points 2 years ago

I make games a fallback activity. If I can go be social, I'll pick that instead. I date people so I try to spend time with them.

I set timers. Every hour or two the timer goes off, and I have to go do something else. Either something productive like an errand or just something not on the computer.

I have a full time job. I never play games when I'm supposed to be working. I work from home so it would be easy to fire up the other computer and play a little between work stuff, but that's a horrible idea so I don't.

I have a self imposed bed time. I had to use an alarm for this for a while but now it's just habit. Also I'm getting old so I get tired sooner.

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[-] Nacktmull@lemm.ee 3 points 2 years ago

I ... don´t

[-] Venat0r@lemmy.world 3 points 2 years ago

By living on student loan and playing them endlessly until I got bored of the lack of things I haven't seen before 😂. Now Im bored of them I managed to land a good paying job but it mostly goes towards paying the student loan 😅

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[-] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 3 points 2 years ago

My wife keeps me in check. Not in that she's telling me when I can play, but that, I'm thinking about her before and while I play, and whether or not I'm being considerate.

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