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Introvert ≠ antisocial. Introvert means when you've had a long day you want to go home and be by yourself. You can still be outgoing and sociable.
Correct.
Introvert means you give away energy to others and you need to be alone to generate it.
Extroverts do not create their own energy which is why they need to be around others.
This is worded in a way to imply introverts are superior and the single source of "energy" to the world. This is incorrect, especially as extroverts can feed off each others energy. I know plenty of extroverts who create their own energy and love to share it with others.
Both create energy, introverts do it alone while extroverts do it with others.
Extroverts also tend to be more vampiric in my experience. This doesn't make them bad though.
It's gonna feel that way if you're an introvert
Yeah absolutely where I was going with my point. The comments on the subject on Lemmy which compromises of mostly introverts is likely going to be biased.
Selfish people are that way. Both introverts and extroverts. You just might come across more selfish people that are extroverts just by the nature of them being extroverts. Had nothing with them being one way or another.
I would rather spend my time with an extrovert as I have the confidence to be myself while feeding off their energy. Many people feel insecure around someone who is outgoing and will intentionally or unintentionally try to find fault in them.
I think what your overlooking is a long day consists of constant social activity. Unless you think taking a nap after hiking in the woods makes you an introvert.
Shy + Introvert = You don't want to meet people or go out
Lazy + Introvert = You are good with people but they should outweigh the culmination of tired you will feel after going out
This is true, I concur. However, I won't last for however as long as extroverts being with other people continuously. Give me some time to breathe every once in a while, even if for short periods.
As an aside, this is also part of why I kept my smoking habit. I know it's frowned upon by people, and I've got to stay away from other people to do my thing. The nice side effect is that it gives me a good five minutes or so of alone time, which in social situations, can mean the difference of me suddenly spacing out, and being able to last the entire ordeal. I haven't really found a good replacement for this, unfortunately—of course, this might just be my addiction speaking.
Coffee pot can be an ok substitute. Only its trading addictions (for a much lesser one).
I had to look up what a "coffee pot" is, but I am still not sure if it meant what I thought it meant (a literal pot for coffee, perhaps a french press, coffee maker, or even an espresso machine if you're really deep into it), which, if my guess is indeed correct... I'm sorry to say, it's already a habit of mine to the point that I have to have my morning smoke with coffee.
But yeah, if you mean something else (based on the second word, it might be), it's illegal where I live, not even for medical purposes (but I've encountered people who use it recreationally). Indeed, it's said to be less addictive than tobacco.
Just saying you can kill 5 mins making a pot of coffee.
HAHAHAHAHAHA! Dammit!
I usually grind my own coffee (from roasted beans) before making my coffee in the morning, and I tell you, when I used a basic hand grinder, I can kill way more than five minutes. It's really a meditative process though, and as a bonus, the aroma wafting from the freshly ground beans is really relaxing. Having said that, I bought myself an electric grinder since I just want my caffeine on most mornings. Still a meditative process though, just with less hand movement nowadays and more staring at the ground coffee falling into a heap. And then there's staring at the drip coffee machine as the black liquid trickles into the carafe.
How do you learn to like being around people?
Step 1: Learn which folks are good to be around.
People that go 100% all the time and expect everyone else to be the same way are not fun people to be around.
Some people are cool to be around.
For me it was fixing my boundaries so that I wasn’t always getting abused when I interacted with people.
When things got fair, and I learned how to respond when things weren’t fair, in a way that made them more likely to be fair later, I found myself much less drained by interactions with people.
For me, the first step is meeting people that I actually would not mind being around with. And people who are actually fun to be with, and do activities with that I want to do, but I can't do alone.
And then keeping in mind that most people I'd meet aren't really out to hurt me. Most won't help me either, but either way, they're just minding their own business and that I'm just another person to them, at least at the start.
And finally, learning the art of when not to give a fuck (and when to). I still suck at it though.
Introverts use energy being around other people and need downtime to recharge.
Extroverts gain energy being around other people.
Extroverts gain energy being around other people
Average extrovert (as seen by an introvert):
Yeah, but also don't "learn to like being around people" just because people nag and give you shit. Try to be honest with yourself about what will ultimately be good for you, and don't let negative thoughts keep you from doing it. But also don't fall for thinking that being around people is objectively and universally right living and that spending time alone is bad or wrong.
I don't mind a little nagging and shit taking. It's fun to dish it out sometimes too. When I say I can learn, I mean from other people. If it were always an unpleasant experience I'd learn the opposite.
this post was submitted on 11 Nov 2023
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