Don't stay at a shitty job just because you're scared of new things or because you think it's good pay. Put yourself out there and interview. Some interviews will suck, some job offers will be insultingly low, but eventually you'll find something better. And guess what? Maybe that one will end sooner than you'd like, but you're already practiced up and know how to interview and write a resume, so you can just dust yourself off and move on.

Also, if you get a huge pay raise, try to live at the same expense level as the old job. Maybe get a treat here and there, maybe fix that problem in your house or car you've been putting off, but don't blow all the extra money. Save some in case that new job ends and it takes a little longer to find more work than you'd like.

Maybe don't buy that bigass (sail)boat.

I've learned that no matter how nice people seem, they can still fuck you over when money is involved.

Invested quite a lot of money and they chose to remove all contact with me after I told them I wouldn't bail out their debt.

So lesson learned. Absolutely make people accountable for their managerial actions every single day before they throw a business into debt. And get out if they show red flags of fucking up.

The 80/20 rule... although it is more 90/10 for me.

For example, being full vegan is awfully hard (at the start), but eating vegan 90 percent of the time is actually super easy.

Biking instead of driving most of the time is much easier than telling yourself to cycle every day.

We often treat things as all or nothing... And sure, I'd love to be perfect at all the things I find important, but doing so puts certain things out of reach because it makes me frustrated and give up on good intentions.

Building new habits or replacing old ones has to start small, so small actually that the book I read about this a few years ago is titled Atomic Habits. What it breaks down to is that changes in our daily lives don't happen instantaneously; they take time, effort, and repetition.

For example, if you were to set a goal of getting more fit you wouldn't accomplish that in one day. What you can accomplish though, is to go out and walk a mile today. Then the next day walk another mile. And the next another mile. After a week or two of this, you might try something more intense like longer distances, jogging, or maybe even riding a bicycle. But you didn't get there in one day: you worked at it a little bit each day until it naturally became part of your habits.

Being kind to others and surrounding yourself with people who are positive and kind to you make miracles for mental health and confidence. Staying positive leads to see everyday life under a different light

Keep trying, don't be afraid to fail, don't be afraid to look stupid.

That it's ok to be alone.