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I think the topic of advice/self-help/therapy/whatever is too often seen as an absolute/a pure science/idk. Like the “good” advice that’s promoted as “healthy” isn’t always that. I’m kinda sleep deprived sorry.
This is a good idea. This should be a com about building value and worth through community and organizing.
building value and worth through community and organizing
Yeah but then again there's that elusive word "organizing." It's basically like tankie at this point, cuz i have no idea what it means. To some people it means joining an org. To others it means talking to your neighbors and maybe forming a tenant union. To others it means volunteering at a local food shelter.
Doesn't it mean all of those things?
I'll put it this way, with your average self-help guide, many people have lost weight, gained muscle, improved their looks, etc. I have yet to see some kind of organizing guide other than "join an org."
That's the thing about organizing, is that you need to do it along with other people. Just get outside, talk to your neighbors, find a community group to join, take a local organizing course (actually a lot of them). Just go out and do something nice for other people. Learn organizing from someone else who's good at it.
If you need to read about it, there are actually lots of guides on organizing. For example:
https://www.brightest.io/community-organizing
https://neighborhoodanarchists.org/organizing-guide
A DSA Resource for Effective Community Organizing http://www.campusactivism.org/server-new/uploads/dsa_organizing_manual.pdf
For example
Very disappointed by the advice I received (90% was telling me to dress better, other 10% was telling me to go out to cliched places) the other day when I both did a bit and also revealed a little kernal about myself and wishing to be romanced/pursued someday. It was more about how docile and boring and unromantic and patriarchal women are here, not how I'm UGLY YOU FUCKS. I DRESS WELL WITH FLOWING, CURLING LOCKS.
Anyway, not mad about it, just disappointed.
Didnt see the post, but jfc I feel you.
Can't expect people to be good at everything, this is why appointing experts to stuff is good
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If we’re going to keep this sort of community around, I suggest doing some serious research and basing it off of DBT, and integrating serious critiques of CBT style mental healthcare and improvement.
Yea let's not have a bunch of internet strangers posting about stuff they're not qualified to talk about. People can always easily read about this online elsewhere from actual scientists
let's not have a bunch of internet strangers posting about stuff they're not qualified to talk about
If the internet took this to heart, it would instantly collapse to 1% of its current usage
edit: not trying to be snarky or anything, I don't instantly disagree, I just think that it's okay to develop this sort of nuanced understanding of how to best approach self-development and community-development as, well, a community, using the theory and advice of people more learned than us, rather than dismissing the concept of the comm out of hand
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