I hate it too and don't deny it's happening but I hate that phrase. It's so crass and juvenile and seeing it repeated ad nauseam has shed any critical meaning it had.

This is a siege. You're being terrorized.

And you know what would fix it? Building your own website that doesn't do those things and making the people around you engage with it instead of you capitulating to them, but why put effort into anything when you can sit around and complain about it and do nothing about it?

Oh no, you'll have to pay for the services you use!