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submitted 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) by shit_of_ass@sh.itjust.works to c/casualconversation@lemmy.world

I mean like I accept who I was born as but if given the choice I’d choose to be born a woman, yk? Idk but I kinda envy them a bit but i’m fine being an unsexy man

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[-] Willy@sh.itjust.works 71 points 8 months ago

I like being a dude but why roll the same char twice?

[-] DragonTypeWyvern@literature.cafe 5 points 8 months ago

Because hard mode is too much work tbqh

[-] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 42 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

I'm already OP being a white male and this game is still hard as fuck. No way I'm doing a challenge run. I'd just redistribute my stats to min max my dude.

[-] Stern@lemmy.world 8 points 8 months ago

We going full luck build boys!

C'mon son of a billionaire!

[-] dlpkl@lemmy.world 4 points 8 months ago

Wish granted, you are now the son of Elon Musk.

[-] RIPandTERROR@sh.itjust.works 38 points 8 months ago
[-] FoxyFerengi@lemm.ee 35 points 8 months ago

I would definitely never choose to be born a woman again. I've had some really terrible things happen to me because of my birth gender, and while I know some of them can and do happen to men, they wouldn't be in the same context.

My life has been quite a lot better since I stopped presenting as a woman. Testosterone made me really sick, so I'll never be able to present as a man, but the middle ground is good enough for me

[-] StellarExtract@lemm.ee 23 points 8 months ago

Opposite, no question. I don't hate being AMAB, and there are parts I like, but a lot of aspects of it are really boring to me. Lack of clothing options/self-expression being a big one. It's frankly always felt like a box I've been forced into even though parts of it fit well. That said, I'd probably feel the same if I were AFAB, just about different aspects. I don't want to transition in my current life, but I'd definitely switch in a new life.

[-] RegalPotoo@lemmy.world 11 points 8 months ago

Same boat- AMAB, and no dysphoria with that at all, but yeah, a little jealous of women's fashion options.

It's taken me until my mid thirties, but things I've come to realise:

  • There are a bunch more options for women - entire categories of garments that aren't socially applicable for men to wear - but a lot of that comes from a much wider variance in body shape for women. There are plenty of things that just don't work if you aren't a size 12 B-cup with a conventional body shape. A cropped top is just as off limits if you are a woman with a bit of a tummy or D+ cup breasts as it is for men
  • There are options for men, but they aren't always as obvious, and often end up looking more formal - try different shoes, different coloured belts layering things (open shirt over a t-shirt etc)
  • Most men (and I'm super guilty of this) don't get a haircut as often as they should. There is a whole world of options and styles, try some out, find one you like from a barber you have a rapport with, go regularly to keep it looking good
[-] Twitches@lemm.ee 5 points 8 months ago

Completely agree, you can wear a dress, leggings, a blouse, style your hair, but, I'm sitting hear in my boring uncomfortable pants and t shirt. I completely agree with everything your saying.

[-] bighatchester@lemmy.world 16 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

Nothing is forcing you to dress that way . I wear a skirt a few times and they are very comfy. Also I really enjoy some colorful nail polish! Do what ever you want it's your life!! I've been in drag a few times too , one time my gf gave me a classic Harley Quinn look and she dressed as the Joker !

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[-] pete_the_cat@lemmy.world 4 points 8 months ago

There's this girl I found a while back that posts on GoneWild and OF (ForestGreen91) and she can completely change her look just by styling her hair differently and putting on some makeup. It can change her from a 5 to an 8.5 easily. It's actually quite impressive.

I live in Miami now and it's a very fashionable city, all the women look sexy as hell with different style dresses, shoes, accessories, and hair styles. All the guys largely look the same, myself included.

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[-] KestrelAlex@lemmy.world 21 points 8 months ago

When I think of growing up female again, but in the current time, it sounds terrible, but then I think of growing up male inbhe current times and it seems awful too, so I think I have to tick the "neither box" and accept I'm too old for this modern shit in any gender form.

[-] weeeeum@lemmy.world 6 points 7 months ago

Reborn as a cat is the only correct answer

[-] don@lemm.ee 18 points 8 months ago

I don’t know why I’d ever willingly choose a life so fraught with sexism and sexual assault. Women pass by me all the time as though I don’t exist, and I’m absolutely fine with that.

[-] isthingoneventhis@lemmy.world 18 points 8 months ago

Is having.... no gender an option? Boobs are a hassle, I can't fathom dealing with having to wrangle a dick into pants, I just kind of want to be a human without having to deal with either.

[-] eatthecake@lemmy.world 11 points 8 months ago

I wonder what an androgynous body would feel like. My body is full boobs and hips, which is fine, but wholly unimportant to my identity. I think i would like the freedom of not being seen as boobs. I'm pretty genderless in my head.

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[-] Daxtron2@startrek.website 10 points 8 months ago

Can't say I've ever had to wrangle it but sometimes it gets stuck to one side and that isn't great

[-] Uranium3006@kbin.social 17 points 8 months ago

I'm trans so that's an easy no

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[-] dragontangram88@lemmy.world 16 points 8 months ago

Travel to some place like Ethiopia and see how the women live. In some countries, women are treated equally to the men, but that isn’t true in other countries. Someone once told me that a young man, of pale complexion, could take a Time Machine to any country, step outside of it, and most likely never be jailed, or shot, upon being seen. That isn’t the truth for everyone. I would hate to be a woman in Egypt, even today. If a man disagrees with a woman, he is allowed to legally slap her across the face. In Saudi Arabia, women are forced into female circumcision. If you think being female would bring you more job opportunities, you might be surprised. I have a graduate degree, and years of experience in my field. It is very difficult to remain at any particular job site. I overheard a coworker discussing what I could “possibly be mixed with”, before I was let go. At every job site, people are always trying to determine who my husband is, or if my dad is anyone important. If you want to feel like a woman, start asking everyone to judge you based on your spouse, and who your dad is, before they care about your qualifications and experience. I mean, there are always the women that seem to have a job based on who they know, but when you look into those situations, it isn’t always something you’d envy. I doubt you’d want to have an advantage in the workforce because you were the life of the party in your social circle, as a female. I haven’t had that advantage. Here I sit without a full time job, at the moment.

[-] livus@kbin.social 13 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

I can think of many many exceptions to that Time Machine idea. It, itself is an example of Western ignorance about non-Western history.

But I agree with your wider point.

[-] dragontangram88@lemmy.world 3 points 8 months ago

Yeah, I mean, I doubt you’d want to be transported to a Black Panther rally, during the 60’s, dressed as a ghost in bedsheets, as if it were Halloween. You might want to step back into that contraption, and be transported elsewhere, before anyone notices.

Off topic here; does your phone automatically capitalize Time Machine? Mine does! I didn’t even reference H.G. Wells and this keyboard automatically just capitalized it.

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[-] pete_the_cat@lemmy.world 15 points 8 months ago

IDK I'm a dude and women have to deal with a lot of shit both socially and physically... But boobs are great.

[-] BruceTwarzen@kbin.social 10 points 8 months ago

I would like to play tinder with cheat codes as well

[-] trxxruraxvr@lemmy.world 4 points 8 months ago

On one hand yes, on the other hand, chances of getting date raped would also be a lot higher. As a white male I'm basically playing life with cheat codes.

[-] Lemminary@lemmy.world 13 points 8 months ago

Hell no. I've seen what women go through from periods to harassment to abortion rights and I do not like it one bit. I'd rather be comfortable.

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[-] n0m4n@lemmy.world 11 points 8 months ago

Why would I choose twice the work at less pay?

[-] dual_sport_dork@lemmy.world 10 points 8 months ago

May as well have a go at the opposite.

If that ever happens, though, I predict a lot of dudes are getting kicked in the nuts. Just saying. So you'd better watch out.

[-] hungryphrog@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

I find it almost impossible to imagine myself as a man, but no periods + male privilege sounds nice.

[-] Wandering_Uncertainty@lemmy.world 3 points 7 months ago

100% this.

I consider myself a woman, but I'm pretty apathetic about gender all told. I think I'd adjust to being male pretty well? It'd be weird and uncomfortable for a while and I'm sure I'd find things I'd miss about being a woman.

But between the male privilege and biological advantages (no periods, easier strength, etc), it sounds like a deal to me.

[-] intensely_human@lemm.ee 4 points 7 months ago

I’m an uber driver and had an ftm passenger in the car the other day. We got to talking about architecture and he was an absolute wealth of knowledge about the history of cities on the east coast.

Made me realize that I don’t see too many woman geeks. Like geeking out isn’t part of our society’s woman role.

I wondered if he transitioned so he could be a geek without social rejection.

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[-] xePBMg9@lemmynsfw.com 10 points 8 months ago

Yea, I would change sex for a second time around. I wanna try it out. I am also the kind of person who don't order the same kind of pizza every time.

[-] AnUnusualRelic@lemmy.world 5 points 8 months ago

I am also the kind of person who don't order the same kind of pizza every time.

Teach me your ways, oh wise one.

[-] uhmbah@lemmy.ca 9 points 8 months ago

I like to change things up. But in this case, I'd have to come back as male again. Our work is not done when women are still facing constant danger and possible "gender-cide" with the likes of the taliban and the united states.

[-] Elaine@lemm.ee 8 points 8 months ago

Hell no, I want to try having a dick.

[-] Jourei@lemm.ee 8 points 8 months ago

Very probably I would be born the other sex. I've kinda had those vibes all my life, in various moments. This egg has the hardest shell.

[-] askat@programming.dev 7 points 7 months ago

Hell no, I'm glad that I'm a man. I think being woman sucks.

[-] lurch@sh.itjust.works 7 points 8 months ago

it's like when you replay Star Wars Jedi Knight II: Jedi Outcast to also get to play the light side ending

[-] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 8 months ago

I mean like I accept who I was born as but if given the choice I’d choose to be born a woman, yk? Idk but I kinda envy them a bit but i’m fine being an unsexy man

Said by millions of trans women in denial before you...

That's not to say that you are trans. I can't tell you that. But what I will say is that for most people, their gender isn't something they "tolerate"

[-] snooggums@midwest.social 32 points 8 months ago

Also said by straight men who have been conditioned by society to believe they can't be sexy.

[-] bdonvr@thelemmy.club 14 points 8 months ago

Maybe. I'm completely comfortable with my sex. But it's also not a huge part of my internal identity.

[-] GlitterInfection@lemmy.world 6 points 8 months ago

On the one hand I would have loved to be able to be a parent, which doesn't look likely in this life as a 40 something gay man.

But on the other hand, if I was me but a woman, I would probably have dozens of children by now.

So, no, I'd stay as a gay man if I could choose.

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[-] RBWells@lemmy.world 6 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

Oh yes. I absolutely love being biologically female. Loved being pregnant, nursing kids, love the sexual response, periods were bad but the mirena IUD fixed that. I enjoy having a female body so much still.

The social restrictions can fuck right off, and I wouldn't mind having the physical strength of a dude but not at the expense of having a body like this.

ETA: almost all the problems people downthread have with being female seem to be the fault of men, social problems not anything to do with having a female body. I don't think you dodge those being male, you have sisters and moms and girlfriends and girl friends who are harmed by that discrimination.

[-] Resol@lemmy.world 6 points 8 months ago

As a man in a country where it's illegal to be transgender (including all other gender identities outside the gender binary; male and female), I'd honestly rather not be reborn at all, especially if I have to stay in the country I'm currently I'm.

And yes, I've been misgendered as a girl multiple times, both online and in real life. It pisses me out.

[-] troglodytis@lemmy.world 5 points 8 months ago

Different. I want a chance/choice to be pregnant. While I don't think I'd bring another human into this world, I've always really really wanted that capacity. At this point I might still be open to being a surrogate, but maybe not. There's plenty of us.

[-] Iceblade02@lemmy.world 5 points 8 months ago

Depends on if I'd retain my memories. If yes, stick with the current selection, if not, coin flip if that's a choice. If coin flip isn't an option I'd pick the opposite.

[-] IamtheMorgz@lemmy.world 5 points 8 months ago

This is how I feel about my gender now. I'm AFAB and mostly fine with it. In my 30s so don't feel like I can opt out at this point without some major major sacrifices. But if I could start again I'd be a dude, even if I was still AFAB. I sort of envy kids that got to grow up hearing that switching was an option, but then I think about the state of everything else and I figure I still probably got the better deal.

[-] Etterra@lemmy.world 3 points 7 months ago

Meh I'm pretty indifferent.

[-] Alexstarfire@lemmy.world 3 points 8 months ago

I'd choose not to be born. Or maybe wait 100 years to see how things changed.

[-] PlantJam@lemmy.world 6 points 8 months ago

Imagine skipping from 1920 to 2020...

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