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I don't know if this is something people say in other countries, but in my country, there's this common cliché or "wisdom" where adults will assure you that the people who picked on you in environments like school will universally develop lives of hardship later on, one way or another getting into mayhem.

I asked my mother one day what happened to all those people growing up. I can sense she may have been sugar coating it, but she said something along the lines of "well, I waited, and waited, and waited, and waited, and waited, and became a teacher, and waited some more, and finally watched as my bullies had to go into retirement five years late, yay" (okay, not really like that, but it might as well have been).

Yeah, common theme in my experience that what we hope for is never "that" set in stone. No matter where in the community (or even long-distance communicating) you knew them from, based on life, how much approximate correspondence do you associate with that mindset in the first paragraph?

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[-] anarkatten@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 year ago

One bully of mine actually beat a young girl to death at a private party some (~10) years ago. Served just a few years prison sentence. I heard that when I was still on facebook, and I'm glad I'm not there anymore.

[-] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 3 points 1 year ago

Yikes. Always thought it weird when violent crimes get you less than nonviolent ones.

[-] jordanlund@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

One was in a car accident, ended up a quadriplegic.

Another one, last I saw, he was pumping my gas.

[-] Lennnny@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

One died in a car accident, the other main one had a lot of babies who now have their own babies. I moved continents and changed my name through marriage before I opened any social media accounts, so I have no idea what happened to the bulk of them.

[-] Corno@lemm.ee 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I'm friends with them! 😃 People can change, and they're nothing like their former selves. They understood that acting rude to me and others when we were little was a wrong thing to do and now they're just regular nice people who are super chill!

[-] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 1 points 1 year ago

I'd trade places with you any day.

[-] otp@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 year ago

One of them is in jail for a looong time. Gang activity including relation to murders. Not sure if he pulled the trigger, but he was the "leader", lol

[-] Shou@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

People who were bullies in high school earn more on average. I'd say they are probably doing better.

[-] HiddenLychee@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

My Jr Highschool bully ended up accidentally shooting and killing his friend a few years later in high school. He dropped out and found Jesus, seemed to be dealing with it on his own by the time I graduated. Haven't heard a thing about him in the decade or so since.

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[-] Adulated_Aspersion@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

My grandma came in with a hot take on this.

"If she was a bitch at 17, she is a bitch at 70."

[-] blargerer@kbin.social 2 points 1 year ago

The biggest asshole at my primary school got shot by a woman he was living with when he was like 19.

[-] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 1 points 1 year ago

That was quick.

[-] PrimalHero@kbin.social 2 points 1 year ago

Two of them became somewhat decent persons.
The worse one was murdered.
The others I don't know.

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[-] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I know at least one of them was arrested for B&E and possession with intent to sell of meth (though it was immediately after high school and I'm sure he's out by now). The rest, don't know don't care.

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[-] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Breaking and Entering. He (and two others) were burglarizing homes.

[-] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 2 points 1 year ago

A town near where I grew up had an epidemic of that. The teachers treated the bullies like their favorite children, the next thing you knew they had burglarized every single unlocked vehicle in the entire town for drug money on multiple occasions and were arrested right before they would've graduated from high school. My friend was one of their brothers and I remember it got so bad they graduated him despite him not passing just to remedy the memory of trying to overshadow him.

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