"cuddly and friendly" aren't the words I'd use, but I suppose it is better than the way you can get dog piled on reddit over the most stupid stuff. Also less people tend to accept bigotry here most of the time which is nice.

Still trying to settle into communities for games I hyperfixate on - they aren't very active currently, but perhaps if I put in my own activity it'll bring some of those communities to life, no?

Lemmy hits different, especially when hexbear is around.

One of the earliest comments on reddit when they enabled commenting was complaining about the addition of commenting-

https://old.reddit.com/r/reddit.com/comments/17913/reddit_now_supports_comments/c51/

Lemmy feels way more neckbeardy... because it is.

It definitely feels that way to me. And it also felt like Reddit went to shit so slowly, I didn't even notice, like the mythical frog in a pot of water on a stove. It took me 13 years to break free. I hope Lemmy stays small to be honest. I'm old enough to remember the Eternal September on Usenet.

I don't know. I've already been seeing a lot of reactionary vitriol like you find on reddit.

Yep, Lemmy feels a lot like reddit used to. A couple dozen larger subs, niche stuff in its infancy (but growing), general nerd interests, slows down to a crawl at night until users wake up in the morning.

I love it.

Even if lemmy goes mainstream. I am sure there will be several instances that only federate with each other and not be federated with the rest of the lemmyverse, keeping the vibe lemmy has now and the early reddit vibe. Just have to find these instances and join them.