Probably Elden Ring. The nost important thing to remember when you are struggling is that the game gives you a ton of options to tackle many problems: do it in a way that makes sense to you. If that's magic, go for it. If it's carrying a bow and arrow to lure enemies, thats also good. Summoning friends? Even more fun!

No one here has mentioned Hellpoint. If you like sci-fi and/or horror elements, this may be one you want to check out. It has a big map, plenty of secrets and shortcuts, creepy lore, cool weapons and armor sets

Or even either of The Surge games. You can target individual limbs and depending on how you kill the enemy you'll gain more experience or more resources to upgrade your gear.

Not sure if it fits the bill, but it is categorized as a soulslike: Death Door. It's an indie game, chill and cute atmosphere, still challenging but not too punishing. I haven't played much soulslike before but I started this one on Steam Deck and I'm really digging it!

Elden Ring for sure. Lots of tools to help with difficulty, and you can leave and go somewhere else.

You could try Animus: Stand Alone, the android version isn't available anymore but the PC, Xbox, Switch and iOS versions seem to still be available. It had a sequel called Animus: Harbinger but it seems like only the Switch and iOS versions are the only ones still available. There was also a third Animus game but Revenant is quite different from the first two.

Another game I can recommend is Castlevania: Curse of Darkness. It was only ever available for the PS2 and Xbox but it's gameplay, especially during bosses, is similar to dark souls.

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I do not enjoy Soulslikes, but I really liked Tunic. Some things it has going for it:

• It is extremely nonverbal, but what it does give you is invested in helping you figure out a path to success. By intention, that’s not always obvious. You may need to work out for yourself when to dodge or to block.
• The atmosphere is bright and cheery, though it has its spooky and atmospheric bits.
• The camera is top down, so you don’t need to manage the camera while playing.
• Dying is not very punishing. You lose a bit of currency, which you can retain at the same spot; and that currency isn’t often critical to progress

There's a game called Heart & Slash which is very charming and has a soulslike streak to it. It's quite hard to beat in totality but it's enough fun that you don't mind clawing your way to the end.

I didn't see it recommended here yet, but my suggestion is Dead Cells. It's a 2D game not made by FromSoft but it has a very similar feel.

Dark Souls 1, but play it almost like you're studying for a test. Research and plan your build in advance. Go to the wiki early, often, and with wanton disregard for spoilers. Use every cheese and glitch to your advantage. If all that makes it too easy, then you can still go blind into anything else in the genre.