I ran up that dragons wing but didn't see the room with the ladder just the drop behind the wing, I had to check a guide for that one after a couple days

Absolutely based behavior

I think they're attacking this problem from the wrong angle.

Part of what makes the release of FromSoftware games such an event is working alongside a community. You discover an item location, and tell your friend; or someone online is having a really tough time on a boss, and you share your strategy. These moments are a key part of playing the game on release IMO, and they kinda require some information to be cryptic/difficult or else the community won't bother.

The biggest issue IMO is that none of this community stuff really happens in game. There's the message system, which mostly gets ruined because of trolls, and you can kinda get info from phantoms of other players, but the bulk of the information exchange happens on Discord, Youtube, and Reddit.