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[-] AI_toothbrush@lemmy.zip 67 points 3 months ago

Lol my sister(whos autistic) described me as someone who has all the benefits of being autistic without the drawback. Also because i grew up with her i dont really care if someone had it. In school i was both friends with the cool kids and the kids who were always alone. I think we should educate people more about how not to be a dick btw.

[-] Dagnet@lemmy.world 41 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

I used to think I got all the benefits without any of the drawbacks but eventually I found out I just got really good at masking all the drawbacks, even though it still tires me out.
(not saying it's your case too)

[-] SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml 2 points 3 months ago

What is your experience with masking?

[-] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 3 points 3 months ago

Not the same person, but my experience has been that it's not some unique thing to autistic people, it's basically just the same thing anyone would do in a different culture.
Just stuff like "urgh this is so boring and uncomfortable, but i can't just walk out.." or "i should make sure to smile now so they know i'm happy".

In the moment it doesn't feel like a huge deal most of the time, but when you do it constantly you end up spending so much mental energy on it that you get exhausted, at which point i need to immerse myself in stuff like sitting at the computer or going for a hike, where there's no need to mask and i can get the mental stimulation that i need.

[-] SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml 10 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Same story here. My brother struggles greatly with autism. Meanwhile I am a very very logical thinker but I've been blessed with enough of a capacity for intuition for it not to take over my personality.

[-] brbposting@sh.itjust.works 5 points 3 months ago

Any example come to mind of some urge you have to fight, maybe when you see or are told something illogical?

[-] SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml 1 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Hmm it's more Special Interests that I have to fight, as I can find it simulating to spend hours and hours on them but it would get me nowhere in my life/career/financially. They're things where only I can see the beauty in them

[-] ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world 1 points 3 months ago

I personally just mastered the act of reaching the "autistic zen", where I not really feel the drawbacks.

[-] ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world 9 points 3 months ago

Autism life hack: depending on how you learn math, you too can get the "being good at math" autism. Math is a way more interesting subject, except we're learning the subject out of the context where it would be applicable rather than in a more natural form (you can tell a good math book by looking at it having actual use examples, not just the raw functions).

Happened with art too for me, I'm still not a master at it, but once I no longer were taught art fundamentals out of context all while being forced to paint, I got to a relatively good level in a much shorter time I actually learned art in school.