It's been trending this way for years, but seeing it graphed out like this is shocking.
What do you think are the effects of this drastic change?
I like the idea of dating apps, but I don't like the implementation or at least how they end up being used where the focus is entirely on visual attraction. I don't particularly think or care about looks; I'm attracted to personality. Most people have blank profiles and just a lot of pictures, so I either have to decide to not like a majority of profiles or like everything just to maybe get a chance to talk to someone.
And it doesn't help having BPD and not really having a solid identity to tell people who I am in a single block of limited characters. So when nobody even communicates when you actually match, it just makes the whole thing seem pointless and stupid.
I met my wife through eHarmony. I tried the other apps available at the time (mid 2000s) and most were "profile pic & swipe" level of depth. eHarmony had a fee (so both parties were at least a little more committed to finding a partner, rather than "sign up for free account while drinking one night"). Also it had maybe 100(?) questions you had to fill out before it'd give you any matches... basically a quasi personality profile about what you were like and what you were looking for in a relationship. The result was fewer matches, but all the dates I went on were meaningful (eventually leading to ~15 years of marriage & 2 kids).
There's now additional dating sites beyond just eHarmony that have this barrier to entry which seems similar (although I don't have personal experience with those).
I have not online dated. Are the people with blank profiles interesting people at all? Or are they just there for a hookup?
Kinda depends on their gender, in my experience. Guys without a profile and pics of just themselves not really doing much are usually just looking for a hookup. The girls without a profile are usually what is generally accepted as highly attractive and probably don't even care because everyone will like them.
I have yet to actually have someone talk to me on any of these apps beyond saying hello or asking how my day is. I had better luck actually finding people to talk to, get to know, then set up a date through Craigslist back when it had a personals section.
Surely this graph is wrong? In 1974 couples used to meet while kung fu fighting. A lot of research tends to prove it.
wait, everybody was kung fu fighting?
through family
Hmm...
I know couples where that happened, kinda. One family knows another family for various reasons and the families introduce their kids to each other. Sometimes, they hit it off.
That is kinda sad
I met my partner because my ex broke into their house with a friend to get their bong back. My partner and their ex, walked in on my friend and my ex, and obviously freaked out. I have no idea why they decided to be friends, but as a result, I've been in a relationship for 7 years now lmao. If anyone is wondering how that happened, we were poly, but now we're monogamous. Also, both of our ex'es are transitioning now, and I couldn't be happier for them. That's just a random coincidence. One male, one female. Also, it's really weird being in a straight relationship after being in a queer relationship for years. Sorry for the tangent.
The sad thing is, that amazing story would be listed as just "through friends" on the survey.
Grade school is funny. That's K-6, right? Like 6-12 year olds?
Church is a conspicuous absence on this chart, I guess nobody really meets anyone there?
I think "grade school" would count K-12, but I could be wrong. I was surprised about the church thing too, especially since the data goes back far enough that it should be significant. I wonder if it's falling under another umbrella.
Whoever made the chart presumably thought "grade school" meant K-12, which it does not.
Easy mistake though, Fight Club got a particularly lewd line past both the censors and the actress by relying on that misunderstanding
It probably falls under neighbors
The few times I’ve had friends set me up never ended well. Those were usually the worst, in terms of compatibility.
It’s funny I guess how friends view you. Either that or they just want their friend groups to be one big “family”.
I’m not surprised to see such a huge drop there.
Why does online shoot up as soon as it surpasses friends?
It has to be smartphone apps coming out
Those numbers don't seem toadd up to 100%...
For "through friends", I feel like a lot of larger friend networks have collapsed. People aren't friends with as many people as large get togethers have become rarer over time.
There are stories of people who met once at a long event and then maintained contact over time. Now, everyone would be on their phone.
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