Sounds like your subscribed to some toxic communities. I dont have that problem at all

concern trolling: be the change you want to see, instead of creating even more drama

You must be in the wrong subs. I see nothing about Reddit except post like this 😬😬

I suspect the problem is you are on lemmy.world and that has become the default instance so everyone is trying to duplicate Reddit on there. So your "all" is becoming the hellscape that was the Reddit front page (perhaps worse as there's no filtering algorithm).

Meanwhile, I'm on a smaller instance and my interactions with lemmy.world are through communities I have joined on here. So my "all" and subscribed feeds are fine.

So find yourself either a regional instance or one that reflects your interests and move there (there are scripts that will make this straightforward). You'll probably start enjoying the threadiverse experience again.

I don't experience that tbh, I do notice that there are a lot of negative posts but that is do to the anti meta/threats circlejerk that was a bit strong this past week, and the week before it was all about how reddit is so bad now that people have migrated (another negativity fueled circlejerk), but these were more present on big communities that I saw when I browsed by /all, the small communities I frequent are still as good as they were if not better do to them growing and being a lot more active.

(just in case, the account is new but I have been browsing for like a month, its just vlemmy went down)

Wow. Considering your down-votes and some of the comments: Seems most of the people don't understand what you're trying to say.

But you're right. Everything on lemmy has changed drastically. Including the tone, how people interact with each other, ...

I like to compare this to the time people went from twitter to mastodon. that caused all sorts of misunderstandings and culture clashes. But lemmy was kind of small, much smaller than mastodon was. so the culture that was here a few weeks ago is just gone. the thousands or millions of people that came here barely noticed the few people and posts that were already there.

give it some time. let things settle. i get what you're saying. they just arrived, scream at each other, are generally just loud and have strange manners from the perspective of someone who deliberately avoided reddit before. but this isn't necessarily a bad thing. we can have meaningful conversations, niche communities etc even if there are now many more loud people with a completely different style on this platform. it won't ever be the same, though. precedent from the early days of the internet is: a large influx of 'normal people' will destroy your communities. but i'm hopeful for the future. this definitely is a chance to spread something nice to a lot of people. we have to establish a healthy culture now. but that's doable.

I haven't really noticed that, but I also haven't dug into the comments too much recently. But, of course if thousands upon thousands of redditors jump onto this platform it's going to change the culture. Maybe try beehaw.org. they are.known for blocking a ton of instances but i think it's heavily moderated towards people being trolls.

It's my hope that a lot of the people who want to turn lemmy into reddit will get bored and leave since the interface isn't as convenient as reddit

Not sure what planet you living in but I been having a blast here. Can’t compare Lemmy to being Reddit lmao.

I agree. It seems that many want to recreate reddit subreddits, commentary quirks and everything else including all the faults.

I think/hope that the reddit cloning will balance out eventually.

Currently people are basically throwing shit at the walls to see what sticks.

Sorry to hear about your experiences mate, I haven't seen such behaviour yet on Lemmy.

Eh, I’ve been enjoying lemmy. Tbf, a lot of the newcomers are here because Reddit and Spez shat the bed. Of course it’s going to start to feel like Reddit if the people that were most active on Reddit come here because they were what made Reddit, Reddit, if you catch my jist.

This is probably the best upside of running a semi-private/personal instance. While I’ve taken steps to overpopulate /all it’s still doesn’t contain any garbage communities. If one happens to slip through it’s a quick fix to eradicate it.

Eh, I’ve been enjoying lemmy. Tbf, a lot of the newcomers are here because Reddit and Spez shat the bed. Of course it’s going to start to feel like Reddit if the people that were most active on Reddit come here because they were what made Reddit, Reddit, if you catch my jist.

That "hivemind" is just people. If you want to hide from it, you need a place where they can't find you. That is not a Fediverse that seeks to provide an alternative to the major social media networks.

Fortunately, the Fediverse can accommodate you, but you'll have to work for it. You need to find an Instance that has that kind of culture you're looking for, that closer, cooler, tighter-knit one.

But you can't ask the whole service to stay that one way that makes you happy. That's not fair to the rest of the world, no matter how much one may dislike it.

Don't just find somewhere that feels nice, find one where they intend to stay that way.