tbf they're pretty much all federated with each other still, there's not a whole ton of exceptions. You've got the fascist and tankie kids, they're defederated a good bit, and Beehaw defederated the two other big ones, due to bot accts if I remember right.

Basically anything asides world, ml (i think?), beehaw, lemmygrad or explodingheads.

You can google lemmymap, and you'll get a visual representation that shows blocks. There's also a couple websites that'll give the info more accessibly, but I don't recall them. Someone else will prob share one.

Who has defederated us that you know of? As far as big instances go I believe we are one of the better federated.

Or just host your own then you can federated with almost anyone

I believe sh.itjust.works has one of the shortest block lists, but chances are you aren't missing anything from additional blocks outside beehaw.

I switched over from my previous instance to rammy.site specifically because it doesn't block any instances and (afaik) no other instances block it. So far it's working pretty well for me. Alternatively, like others have mentioned, you could host your own instance and then it won't defederate anyone if you don't want it to.

Extensive discussion on !youshouldknow@lemmy.world: https://wayfarershaven.eu/post/76145