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submitted 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) by Beluga@hexbear.net to c/neurodiverse@hexbear.net

With my last partner I’ve learned quite a bit especially putting my needs and myself first, I am lonely but if I don’t vibe with someone then I shouldn’t just get with them because of what I’m feeling. I have to give myself space and time to find the right person I click with. That being said, I feel somewhat ashamed and sad that the person I’ve been on two dates with might not be compatible with me, they’re very nice, they’re funny, and in the first date I felt we clicked but the second, I just don’t know. I was trying to figure out if it was my self sabotaging behavior preventing me from being happy but I don’t think it is. I like them but I feel like they would be better off with someone more outspoken maybe? I wasn’t feeling too well on the second date either, I was also scared of catching Covid (I have something now so wish granted) and I was generally in a lot of pain, I should’ve said something but I didn’t and when the date was coming to a close I couldn’t do it anymore and said I wanted to go home. I was upset because they were sad and I could tell because they were more quiet near the end, and any reason I had for not wanting to continue hanging out felt like an excuse.

Maybe it’s just me, they know a lot and they’re smart but I feel they’re not my type and they deserve better. I’m just like wallpaper a dull boring person and they’re the opposite of that.

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[-] eight@hexbear.net 12 points 1 week ago

Rather than them not being your type, it sounds like you're worried about you not being their type. Don't make that decision for them - if they were looking for something else in a partner, they would.

[-] Beluga@hexbear.net 5 points 1 week ago

I don’t think I’m worried about that at all, but you are right about not trying to figure out what they’re thinking.

[-] Sundial@lemm.ee 6 points 1 week ago

Are they giving you any kind of red flags? If not, it could just be generic awkwardness as you figure each other out.

[-] Ocommie63@lemmygrad.ml 6 points 1 week ago

Mayhap you were just feelin’ down, try a third date to getore data points

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