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I can wear a dress to work and nobody criticizes me. I’d be really sad if I had to wear pants all the time, they’re just not as comfortable. Let’s normalize pretty dresses for dudes!

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[-] TheBananaKing@lemmy.world 33 points 1 year ago

Yea, but let's design some to work on male bodies. Dresses are generally built for female body shapes, and rely on curves most guys just don't have in order to complete the shape - so we end up looking like Graveyard Barbie in them.

Guys tend to be a lot more oblong, and the overall design would need a rethink in order to actively work with that shape, instead of unsuccessfully trying to compensate for it.

No, I don't know how to do this.

[-] schrodingers_dinger@lemmy.world 15 points 1 year ago

I was a slutty nun for Halloween and looking cute in a skirt is definitely possible, but man does it take a lot of work to find anything that fits decently. Dresses are simply impossible to find of course because, as you said, the shape is not at all made for men.

Also that outfit made me want to go full f1nn5ter and dress up in feminine clothes all the time lol. It's so much fun! I'm so down for people to figure out how to make the shape work for masculine body shapes.

[-] boeman@lemmy.world 23 points 1 year ago

I was a slutty nun for Halloween

Just don't make it a habit.

[-] ElectroVagrant@lemmy.world 12 points 1 year ago

I don't know if I could keep that vow.

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[-] pragmakist@kbin.social 8 points 1 year ago

My first thought when I read op was that trousers are a relative new development.

The Romans made fun of the Gauls for wearing them.

So if you decide to wear traditional Roman dress, trousers shouldn't be included.

But it's still designed for men.

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[-] Snafu@kbin.social 8 points 1 year ago

Dudes in parts of Africa and the Middle East have already got it figured out. Djellabas look fantastic on most men. I'd love to see more people wearing them.

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[-] AncillaryJustice@lemmy.world 28 points 1 year ago
[-] atomicorange@lemmy.world 14 points 1 year ago

The fucking SWAGGER. Thanks for sharing that, it made my day.

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[-] Voyajer@lemmy.world 25 points 1 year ago
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[-] stringere@lemmy.world 22 points 1 year ago

I have 4 kilts and wear them to work when I want to, almost as a dare to management so I can retire off a lawsuit. Utilikilts and Verillas have great kilts with pockets for workin' men that like a pretty skirt.

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[-] xyzinferno@lemmy.world 18 points 1 year ago

I may be in the minority on this, but I wear pants to work every day, even in the summer, and it doesn't feel uncomfortable. I just like wearing my jeans, and if anything, I've gotten more flak from friends about not wearing shorts enough

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[-] TheDoctorDonna@lemmy.world 18 points 1 year ago

My boss made it very clear that while the pictures in our dress code handbook are of the general gender stereotypes, doesn't mean we are holding people to that. As long as you are business casual it doesn't matter how you represent.

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[-] popemichael@lemmy.world 18 points 1 year ago

I'm cool with pants. It's one less thing to worry about, not having my crotch exposed or readily available.

Plus, if I fall, my legs are more protected

[-] Xariphon@kbin.social 18 points 1 year ago

Honestly, one thing I hate about being biologically male is that men's clothes all look so goddamn generic.

Oh, you're wearing a suit. It's. A suit. I guess. They all look the same.

You're wearing jeans. And a t-shirt. And they all look basically the same.

Khakis and a polo? You madlad. Well, you and everybody else at the country club. Who all look exactly the fucking same.

The thing that really gets me is, it didn't used to be this way. You look at pictures of people in paintings and whatnot and men had some wild shit going on. There was variety, if somewhat less, even into the early 20th. But... seriously tell me if I'm wrong here... it feels like we got to WWII and men's fashion just stopped. Like an entire generation of men put on uniforms and eighty years later we still haven't completely taken them off.

[-] exterstellar@lemmy.world 12 points 1 year ago

They don't ALL look the same. It's just that the stuff that actually looks non-generic are either super expensive or super uncomfortable.

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[-] malcriada_lala@lemmy.world 16 points 1 year ago

I agree. There should be a turn back to the robe-like garments that are used by everyone in certain cultures. It's comfy and it looks regal as fuck. And with the heat waves we've been getting we are gonna have to adapt to our environment where we can

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[-] AletheCrow@lemm.ee 16 points 1 year ago

Pants are optional when entering my house however underwear is mandatory lol.

A lot of comments here are not wrong. Men’s clothing in general doesn’t have a lot of variety. 4 different colors of the same style shirt or more doesn’t count as variety. Look in a big box clothing store and you’ll see that the women’s section is almost always 2 to nearly 3x larger.

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[-] little_hoarse@sh.itjust.works 16 points 1 year ago

Getting my kilt ready as we speak…

[-] Shady_Shiroe@lemmy.world 14 points 1 year ago

Technology in pants has gotten so good that jeans which used to be uncomfortable have now gotten thin, stretchy, and soft while still looking the same

[-] GONADS125@lemmy.world 14 points 1 year ago

I tried to use this argument with a boss during the summer, when she told me shorts weren't "professional"... She didn't bite when I pointed out the variety of "professional" female vs male attire, and that no summer male alternative to pants exists. I pointed out the skirt she was wearing during that scorching day as an example.

But I worked primarily in the field and none of my Clients nor their care facilities cared, so joke's on her and I wore what I wanted anyway. Dressed in pants on days I went into the office or brought Clients to one of my (former) organization's facilities.

But I am totally okay with this trade-off given that men's clothes actually have pockets! I'll sweat my balls off in exchange for functional pockets any day..

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[-] Lazerbeams2@lemmy.world 13 points 1 year ago
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[-] skillissuer@lemmy.world 13 points 1 year ago

skirts and tunics were good enough for ancients, sure, but they had no bikes or OSHA

[-] DealbreakrJones@lemm.ee 13 points 1 year ago

I just got talked to about wearing shorts by my manager. I told her I'd just wear a dress then. I haven't found one I like yet.

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[-] Space_Jamke@lemm.ee 13 points 1 year ago

I'm a chemist, we're basically glued to our jeans regardless of gender. Yes, summer is hell for us.

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[-] menemen@lemmy.world 13 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

No need for dresses. Just make baggy cargo pants (and cargo shorts fo those of us who , unlike me, like shorts) fashionable and business code compliant.

[-] lunaticneko@lemmy.ml 13 points 1 year ago

As a man I appreciate your concerns. However, in my country the problem is much larger on the women's side as female professionals are struggling for their rights to wear trousers in professional settings. The recent progress? The lawyers just got allowed to wear pants instead of skirts only.

Why the fuck is this something that must be permitted in the first place? My rights to wear a kilt can wait until women can wear pants.

[-] sergih123@eslemmy.es 9 points 1 year ago

Why would this division in rationale be productive? The struggle to wear a dress and the struggle to wear a pants are both but the same, the right to choose for yourself what you want to dress with. Same as the right to wear a Hijab, or the right not to wear it. The right to wear what one wants is not something that can wait for anyone.

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[-] Spellblade@lemmy.world 12 points 1 year ago

I'm a woman and I'm confused as to how you find dresses and skirts comfortable. They're a pain in the ass, uncomfortable, look terrible on most people i see in them and pants are way more comfy if you buy the right ones. And most offices are freezing cold year round anyway.

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[-] Grabthar@lemmy.world 12 points 1 year ago

You had me at no pants.

[-] Creazle@lemmy.world 12 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Some workmates and I petitioned our boss for the return of 70's office shorts over the course of one hot summer, to no avail.

[-] Deceptichum@kbin.social 8 points 1 year ago

70s? Those are just summer work clothes in Australia.

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[-] PlanetOfOrd@lemmy.world 12 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I wear a kilt. It really is more comfortable than pants.

I actually remember seeing a blog post, too, showing a fashion line of skirts for men. Not for cross dressers either (but no judgement if that's you). It was marketed as a style that still made the men appear masculine. I forget the brand name, but I was intrigued.

[-] Hillock@kbin.social 12 points 1 year ago

As a man I never considered pants to be uncomfortable. They are the perfect mix of range of motion, hiding the private parts. and support. Dresses, skirts, and robes seem like a nightmare to wear. You either restrict your range of motion or have to constantly worry about showing your underwear. And I would wear boxer briefs underneath by choice anyhow, so I still end up wearing pants.

I think the bigger issue is that most of us men are too lazy to look for different kinds of pants and end up wearing the same stuff year-round. Which can indeed become uncomfortable due to changes in temperature. But that issue wouldn't be fixed by having access to dresses or robes. As again, some would either be too cold or too hot.

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[-] ProfezzorDarke@feddit.de 12 points 1 year ago

Tbf, regarding dresses, skirts and other gowns: Your legs never get pinched, you can just fold your legs up under you when sitting down, as a guy you can just lift it up to pee and don't risk getting your member stuck in the zipper, as a girl, if you have the proper underwear, you don't need to take of your pants, many long skirts actually come with pockets or you can mod pocket slits into them and wear historical pockets under them, you can have them in any length, some pants lengths are silly, skirts allow more air ciruclation, just wear them made of the weather appropriate material...

But honestly, as a guy who grew up doing late High Medieval Living History (about the time of Friedrich II of the HRE), dresses are frigging lit. Just pull it over, secure with your belt and pouch, put on your shoes, if it's cold get your cape. DONE. Go out there and look like the Anti-Christ, King of Jerusalem and "principum mundi maximus"

[-] UnknownQuantity@lemmy.world 11 points 1 year ago

Sarongs are the answer. In warmer months I wear them often.

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[-] lawyerz@lemmy.world 11 points 1 year ago

I'm a guy and really like wearing long skirts. They're just so comfy for me and i can't wear them outside =(

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[-] CarloDaTeti@lemmy.world 11 points 1 year ago

I love to wear dresses! Unfortunately the social stigma is still strong, even in progressive environments. I’d love to see a world where dressing is not a gendered matter.

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[-] Mcballs1234@lemmy.ml 10 points 1 year ago

What kind of dreses should we wear as men, pretty pink maid outfits or black maid outfits?

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[-] ChaoticEntropy@feddit.uk 10 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

At least if men wore more skirts and dresses then manufacturers would add pockets.

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[-] GreenBubbleB0y@lemmy.world 10 points 1 year ago

I've almost stopped wearing shorts completely. Except for swimming. I now wear UPF sun protected pants and sun hoodies most of the time outside. Hate sunscreen but hate being burned more. I've watched my dad get a lot of potentially cancerous moles removed. I'm trying to prevent that

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[-] yoz@aussie.zone 10 points 1 year ago

Thank you. I get to work from home for 2 days a week and I dont wear anything for the 8 hours lol

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[-] eggvng@lemmy.world 10 points 1 year ago

ong you get used to it after a while. it would be cool tho if it was socially acceptable for dudes to wear dresses. sun dresses look really comfy during the summer time.

[-] ma11en@lemmy.world 10 points 1 year ago
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[-] stefenauris@pawb.social 9 points 1 year ago

I've often complained about how females have so many more options for clothing than men. Men get shirts and pants. You can choose to have long or short sleeves (same with pants). You can accessorize with a belt too! maybe a watch if you like. Beyond that uhh, that's all you get lol

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[-] luffyuk@lemmy.world 8 points 1 year ago

I still have to wear a full suit :'(

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[-] ComradeKeen@lemmy.world 8 points 1 year ago

If it's not comfy, I'm not wearing it.

[-] scarabic@lemmy.world 8 points 1 year ago

If I actually wanted to wear a dress, I totally would. Somehow I can’t get over the idea of everyone looking up my crotch as soon as I sit down.

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