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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Healthy-Ganache6336 on 2023-09-19 18:09:27.

My little sister A (32f) recently came to me (34f) in tears over the fact that her and her family are going to be evicted and have nowhere to go. Her family consists of three little girls (all under 10) and lets call him D (35m). D and my sister met online when she was 20. He used pictures of some other guy and when they met he was about 350lbs. He is a world class manipulator and told my sister that his appearance shouldnt matter and love bombed her. They got married a year later where he was late to the wedding and is generally been very disrespectful to our family. My sister included. Through their marriage he is now at least 650lbs and is mainly bedbound. He doesnt work and my sister does. She has to pay for a babysitter to come while shes at work and hes home playing video games because he doesnt like to spend too much time with the kids. They are his kids? Me and him have never gotten along but at my sisters last babyshower when she was 6 months and still working, he was making comments on gross stuff like, "Im going to tell them to do a husband stitch this time." It pissed me off and I confronted him. He just backed down but he knows I am not a fan of him. His parents were at the party and were disgusted as well. Hes a lazy bum who verbally abuses my sister and their kids. My sister has thought of leaving him once or twice and Ive offered to pay for an attorney. Thats the backstory. The guy eats out 2-3 times a day, which is why they are behind on bills. Hes just a slob. He has no job and tried to make it as a streamer for a year but no one can listen to him. Hes just insufferable and belches and farts all the time. Hes a grown man that acts like a 13 year old. I had Thanksgiving at my house last year and I watched him spit on my living room carpet. Also during the Thanksgiving prayer he farted and laughed. Loudly. Just...hes gross. Im not sorry. He also mistreats my nieces. He snaps at them.like dogs since hes too lazy to get up. Demands water with ice then berates them if they forget the ice. The girl was four and just started crying and he told her to get over it. Hes just not a good guy. The girls do not like to be near him, which is fine, because he prefers to be miserable by himself.

I have the room. I have my own house with three extra bedrooms. I told her that I would take her and her kids in. Not D. I am not going to pay for him to disrespect my house and my sister in my house. My sister went and told D this and he called me screaming an calling me all sorts of names saying I was breaking up a family. I told him to be a man and he can figure it out while at least knowing his wife and kids are taken care of. He hung up. My sister is begging me to let him come with. Ive told her no. AITA? Edit: our parents are dead. The kids have nowhere else to go. I will be taking in the girls NO MATTER WHAT. im happy to do so. But I wont take in my sister if she wont stay because D isnt.