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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/LostConfidence4 on 2023-09-19 18:15:26.

I (40/M) told my wife (40/F), married for 15 years, this weekend thst I didn't feel appreciated the past 2 weeks and it blew up in my face.

The past 2 weeks I have taken on doing all the chores around the house (cooking, cleaning, dishes, kids stuff, etc.) while she has focused on catching up with work. Last Saturday/Sunday she worked from home both days and didn't really engage with me or our 2 young sons 5 & 7. This past Thursday our youngest was sick, so I took the day off because she could not miss work. This past Friday I had pre-planned to take off so I could enjoy a day. My wife worked from home, but I ended up staying home taking care of of son again. She gave me 30 minutes of her time to watch our kid so I could go get a haircut. Saturday morning she decided to go get vaccinated (covid / flu) and stayed on the couch ignoring everyone again, claiming the vaccine wore her out. Sunday morning after breakfast and the kids were distracted I tried talking to her to let her know I didn't feel acknowledged or appreciated for taking up the extra slack for 2 weeks in a row. She shut down the conversation telling me, "congrats on being a parent" and walked away.

AITA for wanting to talk about not feeling valued?

Edit - since there are multiple comments about thr breakdown of work: On weekdays she will help get the kids dressed in the morning for school. I cook breakfast for them, drop them off at school, pick them up from school, make dinner & entertain them until wife gets home. I empty dishwasher/ refill or hand clean things that need to be cleaned. We normally alternate who puts which kid to bed.

Weekend meals will vary based on her mood.

Weekends I am usually entertaining the kids if we stay home (she's usually glued to TV or tablet but will help manage kids when they act out). When youngest is napping, I'll mow the lawn or work on other house projects. She normally handles laundry, but I do the folding/putaway for me & kids.

Edit 2: I clean all the bathrooms except hers (we have young boys with bad aim). I vacuum the carpet on the weekend. We have a robot that does the hardwood floor daily. Neither of us mop since we have hardwood floors. I'm also in charge of getting the trash / recycling handled.