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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Top-Coffee-2556 on 2023-09-20 17:54:12.

My wife and I (both 35) are very fortunate to live in an area with a wonderful public school system. Both of our kids go to the local elementary school, and they are doing beautifully. There’s a really good sense of community there as well. We’re very happy.

My sister lives near me, and she decided to send her son (12) the charter school outside of our district. He’s been there since 1st grade. She has the idea in her head that this is more “elite” as opposed to public school. I don’t like charter schools for various reasons I’m sure most people know, but I guess I’m aware why they could be needed. I didn’t act like I understood her choice, but it was her choice. Her son has some learning disabilities and I did caution her that sometimes charter schools can cut students like that, but she waved me off.

Well, last year he got expelled because of low test scores. This year he started at the local middle school, which is fantastic. My sister doesn’t think so though. She has done nothing but complain about the school and how they don’t have MacBooks (they have Dell computers. They are fine) and things like that. She was at my house for coffee and just would not stop so I finally said “you’re the one who sent him to charter school. You knew this could happen. I told you this could happen. Stop complaining.” She did not take that well at all and left after yelling at me.

Now my parents have called me saying she’s incredibly upset and while they aren’t taking sides, I should probably apologize. The thing is though, I don’t think I should. She was the one who chose to put her kid in charter schools knowing what a charter school was and could do.

AITA? Should I apologize?