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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/hubrismp3 on 2023-09-21 19:24:55.

I (21F) and my girlfriend (23F) have been dating for 6 months. We do not live together but we spend most weekends together so we have breakfast about once a week.

For the record, I was very aware of my girlfriend's interest in fandom as we connected over our love for the ship griddlehark from the book series The Locked Tomb. We allude a lot to our dynamics resembling that of the ship. Although I am not a fan fiction reader, I gave a try to two fanfics she sent me and while they were good it's still not my thing to read them. Often when we are spending time together I will take a peek at her screen and see that she is on ao3. It does not bother me that she is reading by any means but when we have limited time together I feel like she is paying less attention to me than to griddlehark, who she can read about the rest 5 days of the week.

However, breakfast is an important "family" meal for me and it sets the tone for the entire day. I make the breakfast usually so I set the table while she is on her phone and still "waking up". Eating in silence sucks for me so every time I try to catch her attention and try have a morning conversation with her I look at her phone screen and see ao3 and just know she's reading griddlehark. It's not always porn but I still get jealous that she is reading about two women who don't exist when she has someone with flesh and bones right near and ignoring her. I have told her countless times that her reading porn at the breakfast table bothers me but she keeps doing it, since breakfast isn't important to her. It sounds incredibly petty but it is one thing that comes up every week. AITA?