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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/_Grapefruit_805 on 2023-09-22 11:00:01.

I (30m) supposed to get married to my husband (30m) We are engaged. We had no problems up until now For privacy reasons let's call him Jack. Jack and me started dating about 4 years now. His parents know that he's gay

Now getting to the issue MIL would show up at random times of the day to "plan our wedding" I had to cancel many events that i made with my husband because she would show up. She tried telling us that we needed certain colors to the wedding. A specific area where we needed to get married so on and so on She wouldn't let me put in any opinions. My husband is the one that wants a big fancy wedding But I don't really do good with planning but I should get at least an opinion on what we're doing... (Like where we're getting married color theme etc) This would continue for weeks she would try to control every little thing to our wedding I picked out the suit that I wanted to wear And she demanded to see it and I said that she didn't need to because it's how I liked it. And I don't want her ruining the one thing I could pick out. She didn't say much so I thought that was the end of it so I went to go talk to my husband for a little bit. I went in my room to grab something and I saw her snapping through my clothes trying to find my suit

Of course I got mad...I told Jack that I was upset about it but he said it was no big deal but I wanted it to be a surprise for both my husband and everyone else. ( It was a really nice suit) it was the first time that I ever spent a large amount of money on something special. So I started yelling at her that she had no business snooping through my things and that all she's been doing is controlling our wedding that's not even hers and that she should be uninvited to the wedding I also told her that I don't get how my husband can be so attached to her when she does nothing but snoop in people's business. And try to control every little thing in their life She started tearing up and walked out of the house and my husband started yelling at me saying that I was a big ashole for making his mom cry. He left the house and MIL texted the entire family and they all are all on my husband's and M.I.L side. So am I the ashole?