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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/lemonwaterinmycup on 2023-09-26 09:45:09.

I (25) have made the decision years ago that I won't have any children. It doesn't interest me, I don't have the instinct for it, and really, I just don't wanna. To clarify, I don't hate them or anything. Children are a lot of work/responsibility and I just don't see myself in anything even adjacent to that sort of position.

Now my sister. She does not have any children as of now but she hopes to at some point. She struggles with some personal things that would make raising children difficult and she informally asked if I'd ever help out with her potential children. I said no with the reasoning I explained before. I feel like if it's her decision to have children, despite me being blood related, that has nothing to do with me and I shouldn't be obligated to look out for them. I know family is important and all that but my viewpoint really hurt her and I feel like when/if she does have children, I am going to be pressured into helping out with them even though it would sacrifice my own peace.