Nobody here can really give you specific advice based on the few facts. You're part of this family, you know them better than all of us. If you feel off about it, there's a reason for it. You've come here to ask the question. So I think you're well within your rights to reduce contact with that side of the family. I would only suggest you quietly ghost rather than making a big stink.
Ya I get what you mean, it's just keeping me up at 2:30 am so I thought I may as well try to get a third party opinion if possible to see if I'm overthinking, I agree with the ghosting
Most of us don't have the luxury of choosing our families. We can just try to do the best with the hand we're dealt. I'm sorry for your loss.
Maybe delete the picture, put the phone down, and try to think of 20 great things about your grandmother.
Thank you, you're right, I need to put my phone away and distract myself for a bit.
Nah fuk that.
I stopped talking to the rest of my family after my grandmother died.
My father and brother died first actually.
And nobody was there for me.
Similar snubs at me for not visiting in hospital when I'm working to not starve/be homeless.
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I had to work day of her funeral actually. Lol
Venting over.....my mum sent me a picture of our dead family cat Fred in a shoebox to let me know he was dead. Also posted it to Facebook.
I personality took a picture of my father after he passed, in his hospice bed, before the Funeral Home took him away. But I sure as shit didn't post it anywhere.
Older I get the more I know I need to accept that blood don't mean shit, people are going to be terrible regardless of your relation
I had to gently tell my mom to stop fucking posting pictures of me intubated at the hospital and various other states of literally dying on facebook, not only because I didn't consent, but also because that shit is weird. Never mind that if that had ended up being the end, I don't want my hairy man boobs to be the last thing people see of me.
Reading the main post and other comments you've made giving more context, IMO you are correct, your aunt is a narcissistic sociopath.
Ya I've decided I'm not talking to that side of the family at all anymore, there's been too much BS and this camel's back is now FUBAR
Regardless of your aunts motives, you are allowed to feel the way you feel, and to speak up about it. Best that can happen is she'll understand and apologize, worst is she'll be ashamed and defensive.
She's not one to apologize so I just didn't say anything. Mostly out of shock and grief at the time.
"I was really quite shocked and appalled by the picture you sent after grandma passed away. I especially wonder why you'd be smiling like you were. What was going through your mind/what were you thinking?"
Would be a very valid question in my opinion, asked in an adult way.
present day society, tirelessly capturing everything
"Victorian Death Photos" are a thing, and were probably more socially acceptable then than in present-day society
Did they throw up a peace sign?
Your aunt sounds awful though.
You prick, I was just about to put my phone down and you made me laugh
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