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The best thing you can do for the fediverse is just be kind (lemmy.world)

submitted 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) by Cris_Color@lemmy.world to c/fediverse@lemmy.world

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The fediverse is small, and thats both a blessing and a curse - one of its several blessings is that in a smaller space we all individually have a bigger impact on what the culture of this space is like.

On this comm (and on lemmy broadly) there's a lot of discussion about how to grow the fediverse, what to improve, but an easy thing you can do for the fediverse is right in front of us-

Be kind
Ask people what they think, and why
Approach folks you disagree with with curiosity rather than hostility (EDIT: no, this is not specifically referring to Nazis. I get it, they're the first thing that comes to mind. I'm not telling you to approve of Nazis I'm just saying be kind to your fellow lemmites)
Engage sincerely
Ask yourself if there's something nice you can say
Make this small space worth being in

A platform lives or dies by what's available on said platform and often we have this conversation in the context of "content" or posts - and we may never have as much content as reddit does. But content and posts aren't the only thing this kind of platform offers- it also offers people. It offers community, and human interaction.

Culture and community is lemmy and the fediverse's biggest differentiator, and we all have a role to play in shaping the culture of this space.

The biggest thing you can do to help the fediverse is make it a place worth being.

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[-] MITM0@lemmy.world 1 points 3 months ago

Oh trust me, I try to be as kind as possible. But the people here, Oh my... I got hated on for "using too much HTML".

[-] Catoblepas@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 3 months ago

I can co-sign this if we can agree that some types of ‘disagreements’ don’t belong on the fediverse, a la the Nazi bar problem.

[-] cyberblob@discuss.tchncs.de 1 points 3 months ago

I totally agree with your message.

These days everyone who is not ultra-left easily gets labelled as Nazi, similarly everyone who brings up any rather left argument will be called a woke snowflake.

Thus, any dialog is immediately shut down. Listen, understand, exchange arguments.

That is what unites everyone who believes in liberal values.

[-] Cris_Color@lemmy.world 1 points 3 months ago

It's a rough time, not helped by how profoundly important politics is right now. And the more broken the state of things get, the more divided we become, and the harder it gets to look others in the eyes and be okay with what they're supporting :(

I don't think there's any easy answer. But I do think it helps to confront people who are doing harm, and open sincere dialogue with people you disagree with (when theyre willing to engage in good faith. No point otherwise.) And try to understand how they got where they are, and share why you don't agree with them

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[-] match@pawb.social 1 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

the second best thing you can do is to make nsfw posts

[-] Cris_Color@lemmy.world 1 points 3 months ago

Lol. Porn does make the internet go round

I already did that, but not on this account >.>

[-] tourist@lemmy.world 1 points 3 months ago

expose your fetishes

now

you have no choice

[-] stroz@infosec.pub 1 points 3 months ago

Multiple accounts are a must!

...or so I've been told

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[-] Gradually_Adjusting@lemmy.world 1 points 3 months ago

I see you around a lot, and you're consistently doing exactly this. I really respect that.

[-] Cris_Color@lemmy.world 1 points 3 months ago

Thank you very much, I do my best :)

By the way I love your username lol. Take care!

[-] Gradually_Adjusting@lemmy.world 1 points 3 months ago

[-] Cris_Color@lemmy.world 1 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Thats absolutely horrifying, thank you. 😂

[-] WhatSay@slrpnk.net 1 points 3 months ago

The last time I went to Reddit, I felt like everyone was trying to pick a fight, and would jump on me for any tiny reason.

No point being part of a community like that, the whole place is a dumpster fire, but if everyone is either trolling or turning on each other, it's much worse.

I hope as Lemmy gets more popular, it doesn't inherit those problems.

[-] Cris_Color@lemmy.world 1 points 3 months ago

I think as early members of this small online space we have to potential to cement a kinder culture that can influence even what this platform is like many years from now, with users that won't be here for a long time!

People tend to match energy with the people they're engaging with. When you show people kindness they intuitively respond the same way, and when that's the culture, I think it can profoundly shape people's social behaviors :)

And this space being as small as it is, we all have an outsized impact on that culture compared to something like reddit where any given user makes up such a teeeeny tiny fraction of the social interaction there.

We can all create that kind of culture that leads with kindness and prompts others to follow suit

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[-] jsomae@lemmy.ml 1 points 3 months ago

ngl this is such a toxic community. The Nazi thing is definitely part of the problem -- we live in an age of "soft fascism" so of course we have our fists up and we see nazis everywhere. Honestly I think most of the nazis are on twitter or truth social though, they don't come to lemmy so much. Hmm, don't assume that someone espousing an (1) conservative-looking belief is a nazi maybe?

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[-] liedetector31@lemmy.cafe 1 points 3 months ago

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