Basically my upbringing in a nutshell. Had a parent gaslight me on my own gender identity since early on in my childhood and even made assumptions on my own bodily needs (overfeeding when I’m complaining that I’m stuffed, while bringing out more food for me to eat. Also not believing that I have to go to the bathroom as often as I asked, leading to accidents that I’ve been punished over).

And then they wonder why I barely talk

Eh, I get it. But our parents (those of us who where lucky enough to have ones who were trying and loving), they did know us better then we thought.

Better than we know ourselves? Probably not. Of course at what age that becomes true is different for each kid and parent.

That last one feels to real

I was curious to see if there were people who pointed out that there is truth in parents knowing kids better than they know themselves. It's nice to see that it's getting pointed out.

"My parents don't understand me" is a classic coming of age sentiment that you realize later is not really unique or true. A lot of people pointed out that a bad parent can abuse the sentiment. Likewise, an abusive person looking to take advantage of a kid can also abuse this to isolate them from their parents. A good parent also knows to let the kid "rage against the machine" in safe ways since they aren't at a point yet where they will realize life is far less exotic than they hope it is for them.

Alligators crocodiles and a brain aneurysm

https://youtu.be/1z-pVZiRjac

Seems to me you tend to be more like a great grandparent or aunt

"Ya" is such a pet peeve of mine. Yeah or yah.