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submitted 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) by AuroraBi@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/rant@lemmy.sdf.org

Notes:

My sister Lena (14F) sent me these pictures (so “Me” is Lena, not me) and said I could use them as long as the names were blacked out for advice and such.

Ashlyn (blue, 14F) apparently has NPD, which could be a reason but doesn’t excuse her behavior. She is known for being an overall rude person, especially towards Lena, and is also known for exaggerating, giving vague explanations, not able to identify people and messing up timing on things (bringing up drama that happened “recently” when it either never happened or was weeks ago), and even lying that people don’t like Lena when they clearly do. Lena’s confusion makes me wonder if half of the stuff even happened, and if it did, possibly not in the way Ashlyn tried to convince her it did.

Due to Ashlyn being vague a lot, Lena will ask her what she’s talking about and Ashlyn will get mad and insult her.

I’ve also observed that people say that Ashlyn’s interactions and reasons to be angry at people is often odd and not natural, with stories often exaggerated and fabricated like I already said to prove a point.

Most people Lena talks to don’t even seem to be too fond of Ashlyn and say Lena was far kinder/more respectful than Ashlyn was, ever.

[-] AuroraBi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

She’s highly abusive, ableist, and tries to convince my sister everyone hates her to manipulate her into either feeling bad about herself or so she’ll have no friends except Ashlyn.

She says she hates Lena but wants to talk to her all the time. She blows up at Lena for petty stuff because of “her mental illness” but hates Lena for having mental illnesses. And her friends think this behavior is OK. They’re so badly abused by her they think it’s okay.

She called Lena a pervert and a creep for trying to make conversation w her.

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[-] AuroraBi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Like the other comment said, ghosting is not an excuse even with poor mental health. I’m about 6 years older than you and I know if I was having anxiety, for example, I would not ignore or abandon my girlfriend over it.

He can still try to make time for you, even if it’s not a lot, and then explain why he’s been less talkative rather than flat-out ignore you.

However, by what you said, Sam seems to acknowledge that and realizes he was wrong for it. That’s a start.

he also “forgot” about me when he would give gifts to other people, wouldn’t mention me under “people he appreciates” but would mention everyone else, and wouldn’t even tell people abt me.

This concerns me. The other stuff is bad enough even if he acknowledges it but I wouldn’t say he was ever a good BF regardless of mental health from this.

Not only should you wait until his mental health gets better, but for him to mature. He’s probably inexperienced with dating and emotionally immature at just 19.

Hope you find someone else in the meantime 💖 It seems he’s not meeting your needs and frankly wasn’t too loving to begin with. And yeah, try being friends but remember: Just because he’s a good friend doesn’t mean he’s a good boyfriend.

I’m feeling cute, enjoy these pictures I made!! (Seriously, they’re supposed to make you feel better, not be offended)

[-] AuroraBi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

No, this is ableist. Disliking and disrespecting another person and treating them like they’re less than human when you wouldn’t if they weren’t autistic/you didn’t know they were is very discriminatory.

What if it were another group? If they treated you this way because they were straight and you weren’t, or if you met them online and they found out you were black? That would be homophobia/racism, so this would be ableism.

I’m sorry this happened 💕 💝

[-] AuroraBi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 2 weeks ago

Well, are you trans or doing this for aesthetics/hate being straight?

[-] AuroraBi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 2 weeks ago

Yes, nothing you say here describes same-gender attraction. Why want to date people you don’t like that way?

I’d understand if it were the other way around and you were a lesbian convincing yourself that you want to date guys but straight people are already accepted by everyone, there’s nothing to worry about and while you can support us, you’ll not only subject yourself to discrimination by saying you’re bi but also seems weird, as if it’s for aesthetic purposes.

[-] AuroraBi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 2 weeks ago

Her name is “The Hetero Angel”, so it looks like she stopped.

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