For your own mental health, try to avoid assuming all women feel the same, it dehumanizes them which prevents you from having empathy and thus creating meaningful connections because you are assuming a woman's feelings before ever knowing her.
A lot of women feel the same way you do, trust me. A lot of women don't know what they want, or just want something as simple as somebody that they enjoy spending time with. That's it. Try not to overcomplicate it. Ask them what they want before you sabotage connections.
What I'm not understanding is letting kids dictate what's cool as if cool was ever dictated by anyone but me ๐