I wasn't a super active website user, and just followed in YouTube but after I watched the video, I did two things.

First, I tested my backup/restore on my truenas.

Second, I joined the patreon and probably stick around for a bit. Everything good seems to ask me for money, and it's exhausting but at the same time it's $36 a year and I just won't buy something I don't really need at Costco this month and it's covered.

You've stated this at least twice in this thread. People aren't like that, just in general. Heck, I understood it and still had trouble picking a server for Lemmy and mastadon.

Do I want a single topic or domain to define me? Will a small server have popular posts? Will it have popular people? I can't find this popular account because I'm typing in username instead of user+domain.

I created and deleted at least 5 before I gave up and just picked one. Is that what most people would do?

I don't think you're wrong, but I think you are not putting yourself in the shoes of most users who want to follow a celebrity or a train station or space agency and can't even find their account.

I use simplelogin but mostly I still use an email that provides aliases. I break things up into five or six main groups. Content like games and streaming, shopping, social media, and a few others. This works as a general grouping for bookmarks, passwords, note taking, and emails.

I felt using a simplelogin alias for every site was out of control. For me personally I just need it a bit simpler.

I hate it too, I need it and hate it. But it is the standard and honestly if we all switched to whatever else, we would hate that too. The mechanism isn't the problem, imo, it's the requirement of maintenance and monitoring.