[-] Kindymycin@lemmy.one 5 points 11 months ago

Purposefully constructing my life and orientating my actions in a way that resists the emergent inclination of our modern society to add complexity to life without compelling benefit. Simply put, seeking happiness through simplification.This can look different for everyone. For me personally this means closeness to nature, friendship and conversation, minimizing my financial obligations which minimizes my need to work, limiting screen time and unhelpful technology, striving to be present and appreciative, slowing down and enjoying stillness, caring for what I have, releasing myself from pressure to be someone else's "better" while remaining ambitious toward exploring my passions. These are just a few aspects that come to mind.

[-] Kindymycin@lemmy.one 18 points 1 year ago

I carry a Leatherman Squirt PS4 in my pocket every day. It's tiny and doesn't add bulk to my pocket but is super handy and I use it all the time. Has spring loaded pliers and tiny scissors, a small straight blade and file, and both a flat Phillips head and broader flat screwdriver.

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Christmas is coming and I have a two year old and a five year old. My wife and I are pretty stumped about what to get our kids for Christmas. The two year old is easy; he doesn't care, will be thrilled with a ball, and just happy to be included.

The five year old is very down to earth and grateful for anything, but he already has everything he needs because up to now we've tried to be smart about buying him things that will last and give him good enjoyment mileage. He has plenty of Legos, an assortment of figurines (farm animals, fantasy creatures, little play houses, action figures, cars.), plenty of outside balls and whatnot. He also doesn't need consumable stuff (has plenty of candy from Halloween, crayons, coloring books, crafty supplies)

He doesn't need more stuff, but we still want Christmas morning to feel special and exciting and we want him to have a good "Santa came!!!" experience. I like the idea of giving experiences like tickets to Disney on Ice or a voucher to an ice cream shop, but that just doesn't have the same effect for a five year old, cause he can't hold it and it's really just a promise for the future.

Any advice or suggestions would be really appreciated!

Thank you all and much love from me to you!

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Posting this in the Simple Living community a well, but thought I might a different perspective and additional input here.

Christmas is coming and I have a two year old and a five year old. My wife and I are pretty stumped about what to get our kids for Christmas. The two year old is easy; he doesn't care, will be thrilled with a ball, and just happy to be included.

The five year old is very down to earth and grateful for anything, but he already has everything he needs because up to now we've tried to be smart about buying him things that will last and give him good enjoyment mileage. He has plenty of Legos, an assortment of figurines (farm animals, fantasy creatures, little play houses, action figures, cars.), plenty of outside balls and whatnot. He also doesn't need consumable stuff (has plenty of candy from Halloween, crayons, coloring books, crafty supplies)

He doesn't need more stuff, but we still want Christmas morning to feel special and exciting and we want him to have a good "Santa came!!!" experience. I like the idea of giving experiences like tickets to Disney on Ice or a voucher to an ice cream shop, but that just doesn't have the same effect for a five year old, cause he can't hold it and it's really just a promise for the future.

Any advice or suggestions would be really appreciated!

Thank you all and much love from me to you!

[-] Kindymycin@lemmy.one 3 points 1 year ago

I was following Light Phone for a long time but ended up not pulling the trigger. For me the hard thing to reconcile was whether ditching my smartphone would really make my life simpler or not. I really value having a good camera in my pocket to catch special moments instead of having to plan to take a camera with me. GPS maps means I don't have to think about getting where I need to go. Having apps for banking, utilities, etc. Helps me take care of things on the fly and not have to spend time sitting at a computer sorting my affairs.

But smartphones have that temptation to mindlessly scroll reddit, watch YouTube, and Google things you don't really need to. Sometimes having to use our restraint can be draining, so having a detox is definitely worth it. I'm happy for anyone who's found what works for them to simplify their life and be more present and happy.

I say one thing about smartphones though, they're getting to daggum big!!! I wish I could get a thin smartphone with edge to edge 4.5 inch screen. Small in my pocket, not big enough to entice over using, but capable for doing what I need. Someone make it!!!! Best ive seen is the iPhone mini 13. Might upgrade to that when my pixel 4a dies.

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Humans are creatures of habit. So often we do things a certain way without really thinking about why we do it or why we do it that way. It's just the way we've always done it. It's so nice when we have those aha moments when it dawns on us there may be a better way to do something that removes complexity from our life.

Here are a few of mine:

  1. It occurred to me that it takes the same amount of time to prepare for the day whether I do it the night before or the morning of, And for me warnings usually feel more crunched for time than evenings. So I started doing everything I could for the next morning the night before. Laying out my clothes, fixing my breakfast, laying out my morning hygiene items, packing my bag for work, etc. This ha really decompressed my mornings and given me less decisions to make first thing.

  2. I realized that having notifications for email on my phone spurred me to react to them immediately, Even though the emails I receive rarely require immediate action. I disabled them all together and put a weekly calendar reminder to sit down at my computer and review my emails.

  3. Picking what to cook for supper was always a chore every single day. Figuring out what we were in the mood for, do we have what we need to make that, etc. To eliminate this daily aggravation, I made a list of every supper I know how to cook and numbered them. Once a month I sit down with my list, roll a dice for everyday, and put down what's for supper each day So I don't have to think about it for the rest of the month.

What are some of your aha moments?

[-] Kindymycin@lemmy.one 3 points 1 year ago

I didn't really get that sentiment from the article. To me the author seems to emphasize the importance of religion/spirituality as important for providing an "existential orientation," although that point is somewhat obscured by their flowery, albeit precise, language. Though they do wrap up with that odd citation about having a cultural council, which seemed a bit out there for me.

[-] Kindymycin@lemmy.one 6 points 1 year ago

Great article that discusses a lot of the good and bad of living an agrarian lifestyle. Simple definitely does not necessarily mean easy, but it can be rewarding by both qualities.

Something that comes to my mind is that you can definitely live a purely agrarian lifestyle like it were the 1800s or older as long as you take the lifestyle lock, stock, and barrel with it's benefits and hardships; people have been living this way for ages. But, I think what most people want are the benefits afforded by this lifestyle (the simplicity, feeling close to nature, working with your hand, etc) but to also enjoy the modern luxuries we're accustomed to (like technology, healthcare, etc), but it's really difficult to make this lifestyle support these desires.

What's worked for me is a hybrid lifestyle. I have a small house and a little land, I raise a big garden and my wife cans, so we grow most of our own food, but it's not a business, though we sometimes sell to a local restaurant and on Facebook when we have extra. We work really hard and try to be frugal, but we both also work part time jobs to make money, which gives a better return on investment for our time than we can get trying make it Simple living lifestyle support our modern needs. So we incorporate modern life employment to make simple living feasible and comfortable, but strive for simple living to make modern life minimized and tolerable.

Have a great day everyone!

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Leopard Moth? (lemmy.one)

Saw this awesome little guy on the sidewalk and almost stepped on him because of his camouflage. so glad I didn't! I've never seen one before and I think its a leopard moth. if you look closely, some of his spots are a beautiful royal blue instead of black :) (Piedmont North Carolina).

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Nature, Ralph Waldo Emerson (emersoncentral.com)
submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by Kindymycin@lemmy.one to c/simpleliving@lemmy.ml

For me simple living is tied closely to my love of nature. I found that Emerson's Nature is available for free online. Been working my way through it slowly (some sections take a while to digest), but I've really been enjoying it and I hope you do too!

They're are so many great quotes from this one after another. What is your favorite(s) and why?

[-] Kindymycin@lemmy.one 8 points 1 year ago

Thanks for sharing this. Hopepunk and grimdark are terms that we're not on my radar at all, but now reading about it I can look back and see the subtle difference in storytelling. Seems to me the difference come through not from the atmosphere of the work, but in the source of determination of the protagonist, favoring hope in humanity over bleak fortitude. There's certainly lu carryover lessons for real life, that identical situations can be approached with different sources of motivation.

[-] Kindymycin@lemmy.one 5 points 1 year ago

This perspective sounds like relationships are a transactional affair of reciprocy. I am very sorry if this has been your experience with people ☹️

[-] Kindymycin@lemmy.one 38 points 1 year ago

I find the current tone of the comments in this thread rather upsetting. It feels like a lot of people are arguing to refute OPs position that a person's value is not determined from their material productivity. If this is you, I think you might be in the wrong community. I don't think this is a point of debate in the simple living community.

To say that a person's value is derived from their productivity is to say that you do not value the person, but what they produce. This can be interpreted as viewing a person as a Means to any End, rather than an End in themselves. For me, viewing people as Ends in themselves is a foundational pathos of Simple Living. The idea of valuing people, relationships, love, time, above wealth, material, prestige, speed is what simple living is all about!

Well wishes to you all 😊

[-] Kindymycin@lemmy.one 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Great post and reminder! I find myself sometimes tempted by the trap of seeking simple living/minimalism/environmentalism/general earthiness by doing silly things that aren't practical. Like just the other day I was thinking about getting rid of my awesome Braun razor ive had and loved for years and buying a simple safety razor instead to simply my life more. How silly. There are certainly times when there are actions needed to be taken to align our lives with simple living ideals, but sometimes we can feel a need to continue to search for changes to be made and it becomes a never-ending pursuit. Sometimes the only real change needed is our perspective!!! Just give yourself permission to let life be simple with just how it is.

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It is interesting to me that very few people want clutter in their life (both tangible and intangible), yet it tends to manifest insidiously even for vigilant minimalists and requires the periodic clean-out to bring a space back into the desired state.

What is your insidious clutter that constantly tries to creep in? How do you manage it?

For me it's papers (bills and stuff waiting to be scanned) and children's toys (family just loves to buy my kids more and more junk). For my wife, it's stuff like lotions, shampoo, soaps, etc.

Our basic strategy is to give all this kind of stuff a designated amount of space they are allowed to take up, and once that space is full, stuff must leave before new can come in. We have a folder for mail/papers, bins for the kids toys (that have to be put away each day), and a basket for my wife's products.

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I love my garden. I'm not a master gardener, there are weeds everywhere, and a lot of times my plants don't produce well, but it's mine. (I'll post a photo when I can figure out how to)

I love how much slower time passes in the garden. The sounds of bees buzzing, seeing the plants grow, feeling the wind and the sun. I love the connection to nature and the flow I feel when caring for it. family and friends like to poke at how I could do things "better" if I used power equipment or pesticides/herbicides, but that's not the point. I'm not trying to "do better" or be more productive. It's my simple place where I can disconnect from everything and do things my way.

What are your outlets or routines that give you peace and tranquility?

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Not strictly related to simple living, but I just wanted to put this out there as reminder, because it is so easy to forget or to be persuaded otherwise. You are enough just as your are.

Don't be pulled into the illusion that life is complex and that there is a high bar to measure up to. We all have faults, vices, and setbacks. But every day is a new day and you're still here. The sunrises, the birds sing, and the earth turns. You're still you, and that's enough.

Love yourself and love others. Be kind to yourself and others. Be compassionate to yourself and others. You are enough.

[-] Kindymycin@lemmy.one 3 points 1 year ago

Pulled the trigger on Crosscode! I'll put the others on my list. Thanks!

[-] Kindymycin@lemmy.one 5 points 1 year ago

I'm no expert l, but my grandpa taught me to prune the suckers from the ground up to about 8 inches, then allow 2 sucker to stay and mature (so you have 3 prominent stems) and then continue to keep suckers pruned from there up. I have a pretty good harvest of tomatoes every year, so I haven't questioned the guidance.

[-] Kindymycin@lemmy.one 4 points 1 year ago

First time seeing these flowers. They're gorgeous at every stage 😀

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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by Kindymycin@lemmy.one to c/patientgamers@lemmy.ml

Hi everyone! Glad to be here on the new Lemmy community ☺️

I've been mostly out of the gaming scene since about 2012 due to grad school, starting a family, etc, but am wanting to get back into it. I love games like Zelda Link to the Past and had a lot of fun recently playing Hyperlight Drifter and Tunic (though I prefer 2D over 3D). I'm not looking for a rogue-like and rogue-lite style game. I'm leaning towards giving Crosscode a try, but am open to suggestions and would love to have a list to work my way through 😁. I'm perfectly happy playing games that came out last year or 30 years ago.

Does anyone have any recommendations for good PC games that scatch that 16bit action RPG Link to the Past itch?

Thank you all in advance and I appreciate your time and input ☺️.

UPDATE: wow! Thank you all so much for all the suggestions! I'll check all these out. Y'all are great 😃

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