It's annoying to be treated that way isn't it?

Not positive but IIRC with Fedora you can change updates to weekly/monthly etc.

It's also against the #1 rule of this community

I didn't say bricking, I was responding to the bit you wrote about immutability being "a fad".

Immuteability is what enabled me to finally switch over full time. I don't think a lot of geeks yet realize how huge they are going to be for wider-spread adoption.

Fair warning that Element is not anywhere close to being as polished as Discord, but it doesn't hurt to just suggest to try it out and see what the reception is like. As others have said you probably don't push the matter too hard but it doesn't hurt to ask and lay out your reasons.

Kanopy is really nice but I read that it may be getting too expensive for libraries.

I'm still waiting on an Okana spinoff simply titled Star Trek: Outrageous

If Mastodon/Fedi was at the scale those platforms are we would see more harassment, absolutely. It remains to be proven but I think federation enables a lot more eyes on content which implies harassing material can be removed more quickly.

Federation/decentralization solves a lot of problems over centralized social media, but ultimatley you can't engineer human nature.

In short, when too many cooks are in charge, it’s hard to make a good meal. Take content moderation, for example.

The take that Fediverse moderation is "not as effective" always makes me smile, because:

1. The moderator-to-user ratio is several orders of magnitude better on the fediverse because volunteer-run instances have zero incentive to grow beyond their ability to self-moderate. But also-

2. Do you really expect that paid employees (or even trained AIs) are going to be more effective at recognizing who/what is disrupting a community than existing members with a personal stake in it's quality?

Also, as aside I am very happy they said "Bluesky, if it manages to become truly federated" and not the "promises to be" or "is federated" language we usually see.