You have a fair point, but that doesn't make the original point less important. You are on the statistically safer side of the coin, but NO one should be treated this way.
Historically, rape victims on both sides have been ignored, blamed, and chastised. This needs to change. We need to have better treatment and justice for SA victims. Gender or sex shouldn't come into the picture for how the situation is handled.
I get why you're mad at this, and I do not want to talk about details of my life, but I get why you're mad at this for personal reasons. I just think it's slightly misdirected. I wish people would take you seriously, again, for personal reasons. I hope you find support and safety.
Except, usage defines language. If it didn't, English wouldn't exist. Therefore, usage is correct when people understand and use it.