Self hosting email is HARD if you aren't an expert but I figured it out. It took a while to get it stable and usable but man it has felt so good being in control of my email. Worth the effort. I use mailu, which is docker based. Works great.

why are people that are building FOSS software not using FOSS software to build it? Gitlab? Forgejo?

Thanks for this post and thanks to all the commenters here for great suggestions. Definitely commenting to remind me to come back here and add some of these awesome resources to my home lab.

Man that's brilliant