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submitted 1 week ago by eli04@linux.community to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

I just found out about JADE, "don't justify, argue, defend, explain" and I could use it with my dispatcher, an older man who's been there longer than me and feels entitled to act like my manager.

We work with wifi based smartphones which are not reliable and slow. Sometimes I have to upgrade android myself because the employee in charge of doing that simply doesn't. Every day the devices hang, meaning communication with the dispatcher is not possible, nor can I phone in (wifi based), nor can I check the task phase I am currently in (if the task is about to be done, if it's being done, if it's been done). When this happens, to avoid wasting time I simply do the job and then click through, something that seems to irritate this dispatcher extremely. Sometimes I get an urgent order, not through the smartphone but given verbally. When this happens I don't wait for the task to appear on my device, something that can last 15 minutes, but simply tell the coworker who gave me the order to type it in the database, do the task and then click through. This also pisses this dispatcher off.

There are 8 dispatchers I work with. Only this one is the problematic one: he likes to ask per chat if the smartphone works ok, to which I answer it works like everyday: with broken wifi, the application hanging, black spots with no reception...

His answer is always: the smartphone works, which pisses me off, because it's not true and he just won't listen.

I get so angry thinking about it because it's like working with an inflexible person incapable of showing empathy, unwilling to learn, who blames me for things I cannot control.

I already had a conversation with my union rep and with my manager about this but it seems I'll have to contact my rep again.

How would you use JADE here? blatantly ignoring him each time he asks if my device works?

Should I bluntly write back: Mr A, we've had this conversation several times already and it doesn't make any sense to talk to you because you're way too deep in your biases and you don't listen. Should you have any complains about my work, talk to our manager. Now, please, let me do my job.

I don't know how to deal with this person.

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submitted 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) by eli04@linux.community to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

I don't like her romantically and want nothing sexual with her either. She acts desperate to talk to me, won't get into more details.

I could act busy each time she approaches me, and avoid her as much as I can but I don't know if I should tell my manager about this. I don't even know what I'd tell a manager: "I'm informing that I want nothing to do with X and I'm going to keep my conversations with her to a minimum"?

Another idea: be boring as f*ck.

Do I tell her friends I don't like her?

Ideally I could tell her directly I'm not interested / I don't befriend coworkers (not true but it would work to soften the blow), but I simply don't know how defensive she's gonna get, laugh it off or accuse me of playing games.

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submitted 2 months ago by eli04@linux.community to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

cross-posted from: https://linux.community/post/4052877

don't give me the it's never too late bs. Life happens, people have jobs, debts and rent to pay.

Going back to school when you're employed means debt, earning way less or nothing during your bachelor or master, stress, opportunities you're not aware of because you're simply not at your workplace anymore, unpaid overtime during those 2 to 3 years... the money you lose is more than what the bachelor / accreditation costs.

When does it start being a stupid idea? Is it when you're 30? 40? 50?

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don't give me the it's never too late bs. Life happens, people have jobs, debts and rent to pay.

Going back to school when you're employed means debt, earning way less or nothing during your bachelor or master, stress, opportunities you're not aware of because you're simply not at your workplace anymore, unpaid overtime during those 2 to 3 years... the money you lose is more than what the bachelor / accreditation costs.

When does it start being a stupid idea? Is it when you're 30? 40? 50?

[-] eli04@linux.community 1 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

my new salary now is 2% less than my old salary. I don't see your point.

career advancement was impossible under my old circumstances

[-] eli04@linux.community 1 points 3 months ago

it’s quite clear to me that me prioritizing my personal life over work made them insecure about themselves. Not listening to their forced, unasked and unwanted advice made them insecure about themselves. Working in a way that made sense to myself made them insecure about themselves.

When someone defies another person’s personal truth or reality, that has the potential to cause the other person to feel insecure about themselves.

With those people, I end up giving them short and vague responses until they leave me alone. They don’t deserve anything more.

holy shit, leaving was the correct decision. I always felt I didn't fit in because they expected me to be one of them, always subordinate to them, a useful idiot who would only work as they wanted.

I'm also glad I left. godspeed!

[-] eli04@linux.community 1 points 3 months ago

what an interesting point of view. I like it.

[-] eli04@linux.community 1 points 3 months ago

Some people care more about money and titles than personal well being.

correct, ironically this applies to this community as well.

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several months ago I wrote about leaving floor nursing for moving patients in beds. I also posted it would mean a 20% financial hit.

Turns out the financial hit is 2%. I took the job.

Several of my former colleagues, after seeing me now that I switched jobs cannot hide their disbelief and shock. Some of the things I've heard: "what a waste, you can do more." "You are a RN and you choose to move beds?", "Haven't you worked with us?", "Oh no, don't tell me you're moving beds now." and more.

I've always been very individualistic and never cared much about what others think about me. This new job means less stress and I can sleep better.

But it's not only other RNs who tell me this: doctors as well, very knowledgeable ones.

Am I doing something wrong, when so many people, some of them much smarter than me tell me what I'm doing is stupid?

Going back to my old job doesn't mean going back to my old department, just back to floor nursing.

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submitted 3 months ago by eli04@linux.community to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

cross-posted from: https://linux.community/post/3848527

from a, a coworker and b, a manager.

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from a, a coworker and b, a manager.

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submitted 5 months ago by eli04@linux.community to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

cross-posted from: https://linux.community/post/3587385

I don't mean only the US but in much of the world: in many European countries the populist far right is unseating Christian-Democratic parties (conservative parties), like in Hungary, Slovakia or Czechia. In others like Germany or France the far right is at the gates of power, in the UK, Reform UK is running high in the polls. In Turkey autocratic Erdogan is copying the Putin playbook to systematically dismantle the social-democratic opposition. In Japan, a neo Thatcherite that doesn't hide she honors Japanese war criminals is about to become the new PM.

Something common I see in all these parties is strong disaffection with the current state of their countries and a longing to an idealized past they promise to bring back, to make countries great again...

Except that societies have changed beyond recognition in the last 40 years, emerging China, India, Mexico and a myriad of south east Asian countries can produce cheaper than us in the developed countries, so called first world democracies are now much older and indebted than 40 years ago (no wonder societies have shifted so hard to the right), buying a house is now waaaay more expensive than 40 years ago, you cannot earn a livable wage just assembling toasters like 40 years ago, you just cannot roll automation and digitization back, no matter how much you complain...

The past cannot come back, neither will it come back just because some people want it to. It's completely futile, but people are not rational about this, they're completely emotional and tribal.

It's like a huge, collective effort in denial: denying that we in the developed world are older, not the first ones in the world anymore, that other countries we always considered inferior to us are even surpassing us technologically while we complain and hope for a savior that brings us 40 years back when we, the white guys, ruled all over.

I don't see it happening: being angry and voting the far right may make some people feel good, it may make them feel they're somehow taking their country back, but it's not going to stop China, India and other countries from developing, investing in new technologies and even creating trade alliances that bypass the US or the EU.

My question: was there a moment in history where societies were so shifted to the right like today? How long did it last?

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submitted 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) by eli04@linux.community to c/nostupidquestions@lemmy.world

I don't mean only the US but in much of the world: in many European countries the populist far right is unseating Christian-Democratic parties (conservative parties), like in Hungary, Slovakia or Czechia. In others like Germany or France the far right is at the gates of power, in the UK, Reform UK is running high in the polls. In Turkey autocratic Erdogan is copying the Putin playbook to systematically dismantle the social-democratic opposition. In Japan, a neo Thatcherite that doesn't hide she honors Japanese war criminals is about to become the new PM.

Something common I see in all these parties is strong disaffection with the current state of their countries and a longing to an idealized past they promise to bring back, to make countries great again...

Except that societies have changed beyond recognition in the last 40 years, emerging China, India, Mexico and a myriad of south east Asian countries can produce cheaper than us in the developed countries, so called first world democracies are now much older and indebted than 40 years ago (no wonder societies have shifted so hard to the right), buying a house is now waaaay more expensive than 40 years ago, you cannot earn a livable wage just assembling toasters like 40 years ago, you just cannot roll automation and digitization back, no matter how much you complain...

The past cannot come back, neither will it come back just because some people want it to. It's completely futile, but people are not rational about this, they're completely emotional and tribal.

It's like a huge, collective effort in denial: denying that we in the developed world are older, not the first ones in the world anymore, that other countries we always considered inferior to us are even surpassing us technologically while we complain and hope for a savior that brings us 40 years back when we, the white guys, ruled all over.

I don't see it happening: being angry and voting the far right may make some people feel good, it may make them feel they're somehow taking their country back, but it's not going to stop China, India and other countries from developing, investing in new technologies and even creating trade alliances that bypass the US or the EU.

My question: was there a moment in history where societies were so shifted to the right like today? How long did it last?

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submitted 6 months ago by eli04@linux.community to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

cross-posted from: https://linux.community/post/3297319

I'd like life to be black and white, but ¯_ (ツ)_/¯

I'm a floor nurse, a job incredibly full of egos, passive aggressiveness, picking favorites, openly denigrating you with you present, a job I don't like. I'm basically wiping up asses, dealing with alcoholics who fight you, washing people with dementia who don't want to be washed, patients who refuse their meds but in the eyes of the charge I'm the guilty one if I don't, somehow, make the person take his meds.

I hate it but this job pays my bills and even lets me save for retirement. Coming from a poor background, financial stability is incredibly important to me. I'm in in 40s for reference and not smart enough to study medicine.

It is what it is.

Job I applied for: moving beds, not empty beds but moving patients in beds from floor a to b, or taking them to the OP room, or for any kind of intervention. Everyone doing this job is happy: no floor stress, nobody micromanaging them, they get ample of free time, because they get to choose when to mark the patient as moved, don't have to wash patients, if a patient refuses transportation they document it and move on, no drama, like when the charge asks you why patient x didn't do whatever... seems an easy job.

but those 20K per year... (102K vs 81K fwiw)

Is it even worth it? I really hate my job but need the money.

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I'd like life to be black and white, but ¯_ (ツ)_/¯

I'm a floor nurse, a job incredibly full of egos, passive aggressiveness, picking favorites, openly denigrating you with you present, a job I don't like. I'm basically wiping up asses, dealing with alcoholics who fight you, washing people with dementia who don't want to be washed, patients who refuse their meds but in the eyes of the charge I'm the guilty one if I don't, somehow, make the person take his meds.

I hate it but this job pays my bills and even lets me save for retirement. Coming from a poor background, financial stability is incredibly important to me. I'm in in 40s for reference and not smart enough to study medicine.

It is what it is.

Job I applied for: moving beds, not empty beds but moving patients in beds from floor a to b, or taking them to the OP room, or for any kind of intervention. Everyone doing this job is happy: no floor stress, nobody micromanaging them, they get ample of free time, because they get to choose when to mark the patient as moved, don't have to wash patients, if a patient refuses transportation they document it and move on, no drama, like when the charge asks you why patient x didn't do whatever... seems an easy job.

but those 20K per year... (102K vs 81K fwiw)

Is it even worth it? I really hate my job but need the money.

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SRI ETF = social responsible index exchange trade fund

I'm a total newbie looking for one world ETF for a 30 year investment to keep it simple and to reduce risk.

ETFs I'm considering are

MSCI World SRI Index (USD) https://www.msci.com/documents/10199/641712d5-6435-4b2d-9abb-84a53f6c00e4

MSCI World Climate Change ESG Select Index (EUR) https://www.msci.com/documents/10199/84e37acb-a91e-8ff3-a909-6f8c7c6306dd

most people I asked know about the SRI but not about the climate change one. climate change's annual performance is way higher than SRI's. Very unsure about how to proceed.

Just to be sure, annual performance is way more important than the cumulative index performance - net returns, right? Because here climate change is better than SRI.

If I'm US based, is it better to invest in a USD denominated ETF or does it simply don't matter if I invest in a EUR denominated one (like climate change)?

How does trump play into all of this?

[-] eli04@linux.community 3 points 2 years ago

somebody who gets it...

[-] eli04@linux.community 3 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

work is important to me because I like having a roof, food and healthcare. I don't have the luxury of not having to work.

Are you saying that work is a place to dump your issues or what you did on the weekend to the point of not doing your job? This is something I find very odd. I don't want to work with people with this mindset.

Are you advising me to ignore patients when they call? cause that's what they do and if a job is simply inconsequential, why bother?

Are you also advising me to listen to them when they rant against greens (an ecologist party in Germany) or migrants? It's tiring and closeted racist.

I don't see how my work ethic is the wrong one, or how yours would be better. Better if I want to become a careerist? absolutely. Better if I want to feel good with myself? absolutely not.

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