Agreed. My condo complex doesn't allow flags or signs. We're allowed holiday-appropriate door wreaths and that's it. I'm wicked glad I don't have to know my neighbors' politics.

Partner and I once test drove a car that had "passed" a something something-point inspection at the dealer. As partner turns onto the highway he realizes it doesn't have a rear-view mirror. We were not impressed with that dealership. (Partner later said that when he got in he made sure the mirrors were adjusted, but his brain didn't clock that there wasn't a rear-view mirror until he had to use it. TBF, the missing mirror wasn't pointed the wrong way.)

Same dealership tried to badmouth my Prius in order to get it as a trade-in. Partner had introduced me as his roommate and driver, which made it even weirder.

Thanks. She's blocked everywhere I can think of. I'm going to be a messy feelings blob today and that's ok. I have coffee and chocolate.

It took ~~10~~7 years of low-contact to go to no-contact. I'm not making this choice lightly. She just sucks that much.

And I'm going to steal "duderino". It's mine now.

I have a trans teenage cousin in Texas. We're not close, but I worry. All I can really do is let him and his mom know I exist in a "safe" state and hope they reach out if they decide to leave.

No worries. "No contact" is the only path to a peaceful existence with my mom. I've tried working with her and it doesn't take. Latest example of why I should just lose her number which happened just now: I missed a text from her then got one less than 24 hours later saying

"Sorry to bother you. I thought you might give a fuck but I see i was mistaken. I won't bother you again."

That's gross dude on a dating site behavior. Tbh, if it was important she could have called or emailed.

Anyways, I'm going to treat her like a gross date and lose her number. This isn't the first time she's threatened to go no-contact and I see no reason to protest.

I can't even get folks to use the right pronouns for me. I have no hope of getting my narcissistic mother to treat me as an adult. She won't even believe me about basic facts about, for example, about how my city's public transit works (facts listed on a very large poster she could read herself) if they contradict her first impressions.

I didn't mind the wedding ring, but I do wish they'd let Grandma be buried in her cheap costume jewelry. Let the dead woman have her bling.

Same funeral, my aunt asked me accusingly if the pearl necklace I was wearing came from Grandma's jewelry chest. It didn't. Grandma didn't own pearls.

Hard disagree. Children should be treated as children, not parentified.

At my grandmother's funeral, she wore her jewelry for the viewing but it was quietly removed by the funeral home folks and handed to my mother before the burial. So there might be less jewelry than you'd expect.

I thought it was disrespectful to wear your hat in church. Huh.

As a former public librarian and current person who walks their dog, I'm of two minds.

1. I've seen less drug use and public sex at local public libraries than at interstate rest areas and on hiking trails.

2. If you're going to overdose, I'd rather you do it in public where you can get help. If you're going to engage in public sex please don't do it around people that aren't into that. There are private clubs for that.

I think the person you responded to pointed out the condoms because they believe food-insecure people shouldn't have sex. Which is silly--you don't always have a choice in sex (not everyone's relationships are healthy). And if you're going to have sex, preventing unwanted pregnancy and disease is the responsible choice.