Oof, that must be a weird conversation. Am Indonesian.
Any conversation touching Islam adjacent lost any nuance with the general population more often than not . Not saying your wife is one, but let's be honest the education quality here is abysmal and at the same time we're number 1 muslim by population. Also our "Netizen" is notorious for wrongly attacking any issue they misunderstood.
One of our top singer got berated nationwide because she wore a skirt with a random arabic text in it, people thought it was a Holy script and she's Christian.
I kid you not one election season I saw an angry mob with a banner that said USA = COMMUNIST !!
Most have hard enough time just to get by day to day so I get it, they take anything to blame. With corruption top to bottom it's a sad state all around. I'm grateful it's still a relatively peaceful affair though, at least here in Java.
Guitar player attachment to (electric guitar) tonewood is my pet-peeve.
Granted maybe my ear is just garbage, but even if there's any discernible variance why don't just change other virtually infinite things you could do in the chain. Just EQ alone will get you there most of the time, it's easier.
Alas we do tend to hear with our eyes, damn you marketing !