They weren't for me on my fresh install, so something must have happened. Either user or system error. Either way, it's an easy thing to troubleshoot.

Yeah, lemmy supports automatic config for your admin account.

Sadly, you gotta use the other instance to find communities your into (or active there) and then add them by searching for community name on your instance.

In case it helps, I only had Undetermined as my only language on my profile. Making sure that English was selected made everything show up. But it might have just been an accidental config on my end.

I'm sorry. You for sure deserve better. You should be proud for wanting to set boundaries. Pretty big way to show oneself some love.

La Croix considered a soda? Welp, guess my lime flavored water is a soda too lol