[-] liyah27@lemmy.world 5 points 8 hours ago

Probably 9 or 10. I used to be hyper sexual as a teen, which is how I ended up pregnant at 15.

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submitted 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) by liyah27@lemmy.world to c/mentalhealth@lemmy.world

I’ve been a single mom for a few years now after getting out of an abusive relationship with my 12 year old son’s biological father. I’m 27 now (Yes I had him at 15), I work 2 jobs, and I take care of my son. Even working 2 jobs, I’m still barely getting by, and sometimes I feel like a terrible mother since I can’t give my child the perfect life he deserves. On top of that, I always come home exhausted from work, and once I’m done making dinner for my kid, I feel beat. It’s like I have no time for myself, or even to just sit down and breathe. I have gotten some support from my parents when it comes to babysitting here and there. Financially I feel stuck, because I couldn’t get a college degree since I was taking care of my son at the time. I haven’t had much luck when it comes to applying to better paying jobs. Dating also feels impossible as a single mom, and I really don’t want to settle when it comes to finding a stepdad for my son. I’m just so exhausted.

Edit: Thank you all for the positivity/advice :)

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I’m a momma and I was planning on driving my son down to the beach with some family/friends. I haven’t worn a bikini since my younger days since I’m super busy nowadays as a single mom working 2 jobs. As I was trying on some of my older bikinis, I couldn’t help but wonder how my younger self was confident enough to be this exposed. I’m not insecure about my body or anything, actually I’m pretty confident since I go to the gym often, so genuinely how do other women have the confidence to rock a bikini?

[-] liyah27@lemmy.world 1 points 3 days ago

Probably will go with his full name since it’s pretty short. My work is pretty lax about tattoos, some of my coworkers have full sleeves. As per letter style, something like a soft cursive would be nice and I’m pretty open to any color depending on the design. I’m sorta just looking for any creative ideas for some inspiration.

[-] liyah27@lemmy.world 2 points 3 days ago

That’s super cute!

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submitted 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) by liyah27@lemmy.world to c/nostupidquestions@lemmy.world

I’m a young mom with a pre-teen son and he’s called me “mommy” up until he was about 10 and a half. Since then he’s been calling me “Ma” which I find pretty cute. Especially when he extends it to “Maaa” when yelling from another room. Maybe it’s a southern thing lol. Just curious about what y’all call your moms?

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submitted 3 days ago by liyah27@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

I’ve been a single momma for a few years now and I was thinking about getting a small tattoo of my son’s name/initial. Location wise I was thinking on my collar. I already have a few other small tattoos down my spine and on my sternum from when I was younger. Any suggestions?

[-] liyah27@lemmy.world 10 points 4 days ago

Typically his physical/sexual abuse was only directed to me behind closed doors and never towards our son. One night, he came home super drunk (Suffered from alcoholism) and started loudly yelling at our son randomly. I stepped in and he slapped me. That’s kind of when I decided I had enough, and I told him to leave. He broke down and I convinced him to go to rehab and I ended the relationship.

[-] liyah27@lemmy.world 11 points 4 days ago

I have a pretty good relationship with my parents now. They definitely help me with taking care of my son every now and then. They are kind of pressuring me to try dating again.

When I first told them I was pregnant, my dad was pretty pissed initially and my mom was super disappointed but they kind of cooled off and became more supportive which I appreciated.

[-] liyah27@lemmy.world 14 points 4 days ago

I work for part time for quest diagnostics and as a waitress on weekends.

I don’t interact too much with my son’s friends, but they are usually pretty surprised when they see me. I remember opening the door when my son’s friends came over for the first time and one of them asked if I was his older sister!

My relationship with my son is pretty great. Recently he’s been kind of his pre-teen era but we’re still very close. I feel like being a younger mom also helps me relate to him a little more.

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I’m a 27 year old single mother and I have a 12 year old son. Recently he’s been knocking on my door in the middle of the night because he can’t sleep and he asks to sleep with me. I’ve been letting him since neither of us really have a problem with it and it’s kind of nice not having to sleep alone every night. However, I’ve heard and seen some things online that seem controversial about co-sleeping with a child past a certain age. I definitely don’t want to negatively affect his development, so I guess what are your thoughts?

[-] liyah27@lemmy.world 22 points 4 days ago

I grew up in a pretty religious household so that was kinda immediately off the table. But honestly, I’m not super religious myself and I am pro-choice. I won’t lie and say I never considered it, but I feel like I would have always wondered what my son would have been like had I aborted. Personally, I felt like I had a good enough support system to raise a kid even at my age. Now, I have no regrets and I’m extremely happy with how things have turned out raising a son.

[-] liyah27@lemmy.world 12 points 4 days ago

Hearing comments from other people about me having a kid was probably one of the hardest things to deal with at school. I could sense judgement even from teachers just from the way they looked at me. Also being a POC in a mostly white town didn’t make things better. Luckily I had a few supportive friends who would always check up on me and stuck by me.

[-] liyah27@lemmy.world 11 points 4 days ago

I definitely have no regrets of becoming a mother. My son is my whole world, and I love him so much. I’m a big believer in everything happening for a reason, so I’m grateful for whatever comes to me.

[-] liyah27@lemmy.world 12 points 4 days ago

My ex was a year and a half older than me so he was 16 almost 17.

Managing high school while having a kid was difficult but fortunately I had grandparents who were willing to take care of my son while I was at school. My mother also helped a bit, but both my mother and father were working full time.

I never fully dropped out, but I did take a semester off to recover from giving birth and all of the stress. My partner continued school as well.

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submitted 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) by liyah27@lemmy.world to c/askmeanything@lemmy.ca

A few years ago I left my abusive ex. Now I’m a 27 year old single mother and my son is 12. I work 2 jobs and take care of my son. Ask me anything.

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I’m a single mother of a 12 year old boy and recently he told me he was gonna have some friends over, but he asked me if I could stay in my room while they hangout. After some arguing I did end up staying in my room for the most part outside of bringing them snacks/drinks. I was kind of hurt because I want to be that cool/friendly mom to my son’s friends and I want to get to know who my son is hanging out with. I’m definitely on the younger end for a mother of a 12 year old since I had him extremely early, so I feel like I’d be less embarrassing than other moms. Any time I’ve offered to chaperone for school events, he’s begged me not to. What should I do? Is this just a phase?

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