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Toleruleance
(lemmy.blahaj.zone)
I've found that a good way to check for actual tolerance in a group is how they treat their furries.
Also, the furries make the internet work. plz. I need the furry hacking power in the world.
I think one of the hardest things to overcome for me is that I don't have to "get it". As long as it doesn't hurt anyone, who cares? Even if it "makes you uncomfortable", there are so many situations that might have made you uncomfortable the first time you experienced them - did all of those uncomfortable situations result in something terrible? If not, then we should embrace being uncomfortable as a transitional period that could end in something really cool!
I don't understand a lot about human physiology and just accepting that other people are different than I am has allowed me to live and let live.
Intolerant of intolerance though, speaking up used to make me uncomfortable but now I almost revel in it. I encourage any future ally to just start speaking up, baby steps at first. "Hey, that's not cool." "Well, my relative is gay and they are a great person."
It’s amazing how often a soft-handed approach like “hey that was a mean thing to say” will make fuckers INSTANTLY back down and do that weak ass “oh i was just joking” backpedal.
And even reconsider long held viewpoints. I work with a classic conservative but in the past 6 years he's started to come around a little. Me, another genx standard construction worker, having a trans kid and just talking has softened his crusty ass quite a bit. Doubt it's changed his vote but he wouldn't openly disrespect my kid now
Specifically being a furry doesn't hurt anyone, but furry cons are banned from numerous hotels for... Reasons. And that fuels negative stereotypes.
One of my favorite Adventure Time lines