I think you're just gonna have to double-down on returns if you want that in-person experience online without jumping through hoops. Just make sure to shop online at places that have a good policy, some clothing websites know this is how it works so their policy is setup to compliment that (free returns, awesome customer service, decent return time policy).

Think of the mail delivery as your personal entourage, they bring you clothing to try on at your leisure (which you've pre-selected the style/etc) and you just give them back if you're not satisfied. You can schedule pick-ups easily without needing to go to the post office every week if the company has a decent enough packaging system (some even send return slips/packages or are printable etc).

To make it easier, I would suggest getting into the measurements of your body. It's not like your body is going to dramatically change from day to day so it should be something you'll be able to monitor and get used to real quick (male centric video/female centric video). It's a little more work, but will last you a lifetime as a skill to better understand your body. It will probably help lower the number of returns as well since you'll be better informed.