Remember you are in control, you have the power. If you're unhappy with your instance, move instance. If you're unhappy with another instance, go outside and come back once you've calmed down. Especially in regards to the threadiverse, we're better together, even when we're apart.
Threadiverse is long form, basically Lemmy, Kbin, Frendica and Writely. Fediverse is them plus Mastodon and FireFish