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Kids are so difficult
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What is Neurodivergence?
It's ADHD, Autism, OCD, schizophrenia, anxiety, depression, bi-polar, aspd, etc etc etc etc
“neurologically atypical patterns of thought or behavior”
So, it’s very broad, if you feel like it describes you then it does as far as we're concerned
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So much self-reflection, that's impressive! I'm not a parent, but I feel like I get a lot of this, because it's articulated so well. Also sounds, like you really intend to do your best!
That's like classic non-violent communication by Marshall Rosenberg. There is more to it and it helps with adults too, not just with children.
Maybe forgiveness might help with the exhaustion. For the mistakes of your own caretakers, for yourself, for your children. Most importantly for yourself. You can more easily try your best every day, if blame for not getting it perfect all the time doesn't become so strong, that it gets in the way. Not sure, if this applies at all to your case.